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Court Gives Absentee Lusaka Husband The Boot
By KAPALA CHISUNKA
A 29-YEAR-OLD woman of Garden begged the Lusaka Boma Court to dissolve her 11-year-old marriage because she could no longer continue being married to an absentee husband.
Evelyn Mwale told senior court magistrate Morgan Kayanika that she was better off divorced from her husband because they had not lived together as husband and wife for the past one year five months.
This was in a case in which Mwale sued her husband Christopher Muyinda, 32, of Matero for divorce. The two got married in 2002 and have two children together. They have been on separation for one year five months.
But Muyinda told the court that the reason he had been unable to live under the same roof with his wife and children was that the currently lives in a bar where he works.
Mwale told the court that problems in their marriage started in 2006.
“Muyinda’s drinking compounded the problems we were already having in our marriage. I tried to stay with him hoping that he would change but he never did. He became irresponsible and stopped providing for us,” she said.
She said she tried to advise him because she feared that he could lose his job but he never heeded to her advice until he finally lost his job, a situation she said frustrated him to a point he started physically abusing her.
Mwale said to maintain peace, she decided to get a job as a maid to help out but because of the meagre salary she was getting, she decided that the family moves in with her family to save on rentals.
“Even at my parents’ home, he continued abusing me when I was the one providing for him and the children. My brother-in-law managed to get him a job but his behaviour got him fired. In 2011, our families called for a meeting to try and counsel us but that did not help either,” she said.
In his statement, Muyinda said he still loved his wife and wanted them reconciled despite being on separation for more than a year.
“We were happy in the beginning but my frustrations at work contributed to my problems in my marriage. I have been trying to sort myself in the past year but it has been difficult to get a job so I can adequately provide for my children and my wife.
Your honour, I work in a bar and that is where I sleep and it is not possible to move my whole family there because of the environment,” Muyinda said.
Passing judgment, the court dissolved the union but no compensation was ordered because Muyinda did not pay dowry.
He was, however, ordered to pay K200 monthly as child maintenance starting this monthend.
Posted by Editor
on June 12, 2013. Filed under LIFE & STYLE, STYLE.
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DIVA
June 12, 2013 at 11:04 am
Atase, ekaume aka akapuba fye. The woman did well not to have more children. At lease with two she can manage on her own. Good move girl. Men must provide, house, money, car nefyashalako.
Mundia M
June 12, 2013 at 11:28 am
This kind of man is totally unacceptable by any woman under the sun. This is being married to an imbecile and this is a sin to Jehovah God.
This woman is right to divorce this undeserving dolt.
child protector
June 12, 2013 at 5:57 pm
WAKE UP CALL TO ALL THOSE ASPIRING TO GET MARRIED,ESPECIALLY THE YOUNG GENERATION.WHERE THERE IS NO GOD AT THE CENTER OF MARRIAGE,EXPECT SUCH AS WE HAVE READ.AMEN.
tru
June 12, 2013 at 11:24 pm
ba Diva muhule fye. Why cant you provide yoselves wht you want. Chopeti why didnt you tell your father to buy everythin 4 you!
kakolwe
June 13, 2013 at 3:47 am
Awe naimwe ba Diva, the drunkeness & irresponsbility are secondary in this issue. Primarily, how did this woman’s family & herself allow this id!ot to father 2kids without dowry? Te chupo ico
Mobuto Sese Seko Mbendu Kuku Wazabanga
June 13, 2013 at 6:01 am
Staying with the ali Kubuyeketi munyamata manje.
SEKOPONOKE
June 13, 2013 at 8:14 am
Diva, nefyashalako finshi?
Slim Dee Production
June 13, 2013 at 8:44 am
it’s lik the woman accepted her so called husband bcoz he was a big buyer of chibuku. Obviously they met in the bar talipila nensalamu bwafwa.
20th
June 13, 2013 at 11:19 am
they never mention why they’re beaten. the story is well engineered to make herself seem like a saint. However, the husband still needs to learn to face up to his responsibilities.