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He wants me to buy the engagement ring

close-up of a couple holding handsDear readers,

My boyfriend told me he would have proposed to me but he doesn’t have enough money to buy the kind of engagement he wants his woman to wear. He says if it is so important to me I could buy it and then he would pay me back later. Should I or shouldn’t I?

Confused girl.

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31 Responses to He wants me to buy the engagement ring

  1. Mulenga and Jelita Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 12:51 am

    Dear confused,
    Let me talk in simple language.
    Do you love him? Seems you do, hence the confusion.

    An engagement ring is something any sensible man must honorable purchase without involving the potential receiver. This whimp of a man (he is a boy, to be honest with you) should be ashamed of himself to even have to ask you, but I guess he is of such poor upbringing he has no shame. He may just be another “John, isa ulye ubwali” so please be careful where you throw your money. Does the man have the potential to one day purchase an expensive ring for you? In other words, what kind of work or career is he into? I sense that you are not equally matched. Money may not be everything, but if you are having these kind of troubles even before the boat has hit the water, there are going to be bigger troubles. Leave the fool and find the better man you rightly deserve. Let us not be hasty to get married to financial problems.

    • kk Reply

      January 27, 2014 at 7:59 pm

      i agree with mule and jeli

  2. Live Wire Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 6:42 am

    Dear confused, runaway from that fool as fast as u can,issues of engagement is supposed to be a surprise now if its u buying wherez the surprise in there? Morova he won’t even paybak he’ll jst continue milking u of every penny. Wish u luck in finding Mr ryt!

  3. JOHN ISAIAH BWANGA Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 7:08 am

    If you really love your man you wouldn’t have come on the media and that simply shows that your marriage will be highly be a problem caused by you the lady. remember your foundation is important and I think you have weaken your foundation the man is innocent and honest.

    Regards,

    Isaiah

  4. mwamba mutale Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 7:25 am

    Leave that man immediatly. He is not ready for yu….probably is still a yooh. Find another seriose and mature guy

  5. ONETIME RELOADED Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 7:41 am

    mu yo bali mambala lyakwe..he has no pride..

  6. Chocho Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 7:46 am

    Comfused you ll not be the first person to do that even my freind did that tho she was not given the money back but they are happilly married,now help me also with micheal sata’s fb address i wana be his freind on fb

  7. test@e Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 7:49 am

    WHy should you even be confused. Just buy the ring and give him so that he can put it on your finger. Are you not the one who is going to be wearing it??

    • Lapp Reply

      January 28, 2014 at 5:28 pm

      Serious advice!

  8. dorc Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 8:37 am

    an engament is a suprise..it wont carry weight..its nt about buying an expensive engangement ring…came on gal there is no way u can by a ring,he is suppose to do so….leave da man and dnt be despirate for marriage….leave him period

  9. Oracle Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 10:09 am

    It would have made some sense if the man just borrowed money from her pretending it’s for something else but instead divert the funds for purchase the most desired ring for her.

    The man should use his head and not the heart as he only has one heart, once lost then end of all.

    Oracle

  10. Wise Man Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 10:36 am

    The Man is just being honesty,he is telling the lady where the money is going to and it’s up to her to decide whether to give him or not,Mind you Lying is sin and moreover,weakens the relationship.

    To all those critising the Man for being honesty,it just shows what kind of people you are.To the lady you should be thanking God to have such an honesty Gentleman,unless you want Men who would milk you by lying to you,it would have been easier for him(believe you me you would have given him)to get money from you by telling lies,which most men do.
    So the Choice is yours to make,you know him better and so you should be able to make a decision,based on how your relationship has fared so far.

  11. spare Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 10:52 am

    can we ve news and not this Rubbish do want pleases you

  12. Morgan Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 11:02 am

    Should u or shouldn’t you?

  13. deadlift Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 11:20 am

    I think confused u r just pushing the guy to marry u.lookin at it,he hasn’t yet decided to marry u.u asked em to engage u and the answer he gave u is never.u wait for he’s right time he won’t even hesitate put a ring on yo finger. If u r desparate 4 marriage look 4 someome else who’s ready ……..

  14. bashi li Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 12:16 pm

    If he cant buy you an engagement ring, next he ll tell you to sponsor the wedding and pay rent for atlist 6 months if you have and ll pay back later wen he has. stupd man run away from him. are you the one to marry him o its him to marry you!!! this world we are moving to this is not australia o other countries were woman marry men pa Zed its a mans duty!!!!

  15. cential Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 12:27 pm

    Just tell him to borow money from some1else coz it sound ocward.SO FUNNY

  16. nkosi Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 12:44 pm

    I think u both are confused. A: the boy is not ready yet then B: u re forcin him to marry u. Pliz stop wastin our time we want to read better news.

  17. Shortcake Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 3:26 pm

    All I can tell you is run! Thats a tell tale sign of how your life will be. You are better off on your own, before you know it you’ll be paying for the wedding and upkeep of the household.

  18. m Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 3:41 pm

    my sister dat man luv u than u thnk. we ar nt many wu cn tel u dat baby i dnt av money for de ring i wnt u to wore. bt buy hw pay u bak. dats gud idea.

    • Mrs. Chipili Reply

      January 27, 2014 at 11:25 pm

      Iwe, who was your Chisungu teacher?

  19. FM Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 8:58 pm

    The only problem is you included media in this issue,yes you would be confused because your are still young…that’s not wife material.this was supposed to be dealt with within yourselves…am sorry that is what I can say and guys leave the man alone.

  20. naimwe Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 9:05 pm

    he doesn’t want but you forcing yoself on him, can’t read between the lines?

  21. CHIPASA "INGE" Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 9:06 pm

    My dear confused, if you are doing it stop pushing the guy to buy you an expensive ring. Secondly, your guy is to be your bread winner. Who then will be providing when the guy fails? You will be opting for an initiative if you can’t continue doing it for yourself. It is either wait until the guy becomes comfortable to afford your moderate needs or move on if there is no indication in the near future there is hope. What is it that you love this guy for? May be you are looking at a wrong attraction. A man must be a pillar except if circumstances fall along the way

  22. freeman Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 9:23 pm

    wasting our tym ba fyati.le

  23. ZinCA Reply

    January 28, 2014 at 1:58 am

    Leave his a.s.s.
    He could have borrowed from anyone but you

  24. citizen Reply

    January 28, 2014 at 4:07 am

    the best answer is from herself. Does an engagement ring measure the success of marriage? if so, let him buy. If not, let them continue without a ring. its the way you take it.

    • Oracle Reply

      January 28, 2014 at 9:25 am

      Well Spoken citizen and that is where the solution is.
      Oracle

  25. KazWorld Reply

    January 28, 2014 at 4:14 pm

    Uhmmmnnn

  26. Nkhuku Reply

    January 29, 2014 at 9:26 am

    ATASE FYA BUPUBA.

  27. PF Reply

    January 29, 2014 at 11:35 am

    His asking you to buy your ring is an indication of what he is likely to be when you marry. Make a personal decision as to whether you will throughout your marriage be willing to be head of house from time to a while when he can’t do his job as a man of the house. As the man he should be able to lead you through his poverty or wealth without having to make you be the ultimate bearer of the burdens.

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