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My Boyfriend Put A Seed In Me: What Do I Tell My Husband?
Dear
I just need the truth on my situation before I make a mistake. I was dating a guy before I met the man who proposed to me and we got married very recently. Although he slépt with me a few times in the course of our four months dating, I never told my boyfriend about him since he is living very far from my area, and he was also “having” me any time I visited his house.
Now there is a problem, I wish it never happened. I went to boyfriend’s house to tell him about my marriage, he just grabbed me before I could even tell him my mission and we “did it” again. I lost control…
This was just two weeks to my wedding. On the morning of my wedding I started feeling funny and two weeks after our wedding I found out I’m pregnant. My husband did’t sleep with me for like three weeks before our wedding because of the pressure of preparations and all that.
I know the pregnancy is for my boyfriend but I can still give it to my husband since the difference will not be a big one that will make him suspect me. My boyfriend knows that am married now but he didnt know he has put a seed inside me. He is not even comfortable enough to take care of a baby now.
No one should ask me to tell my husband the truth, I can’t! Please what are the other options for me?
- A sister in stress.
Posted by
me
February 12, 2014 at 10:44 am
You have brought trouble to yourself. Barely a week into marriage and you are already unfaithful. The husband will never ever trust you once you tell him that. however, time will also tell whether you were true to your confessions or not. why would you go out with two men at the same time? Marriage is far different from boyfriend/ girlfriend fantasy, and soon u will begin to see the realities of life. Tell them both and face the music. The outcome is beyond you, i feel pity for that husband……..
navi
February 14, 2014 at 4:28 pm
what this person has said is true for you it my sound hard but i believe it will show that you really want to start a new life of building trust..
NB.
keep note though once you tell them both the music going to be good to dance to.
fwala jombo
February 12, 2014 at 10:50 am
N0 comment chakosa!
De Lady
February 12, 2014 at 11:19 am
iyi case its bad. we all date more than one man at once, but bonse ukulakutomba?? yakosako how can u manage??
Mateyo
February 12, 2014 at 12:13 pm
IF THIS STORY IS TRUE THEN MAY GOD FORGIVE YOU FOR THAT.
who?
February 12, 2014 at 12:38 pm
Chi NOKO
rakamza
February 12, 2014 at 12:46 pm
Try prayers and confess deeply from your heart! heavens are not to far to listen!
fwamoneka
February 12, 2014 at 1:55 pm
i think its better to let your husband know there some men who are good maybe he can understand that way you will be at peace keeping quite is not a solution if what you are saying is true let your husband know before you can tell your boyfriend and if your hub is agreeable to that then it will be between the two of you this happened to my friend 5 years ago.
zambian
February 12, 2014 at 2:09 pm
You like it or not the truth shall set you free and repent your sins and seek God’s forgiveness
ONETIME RELOADED
February 12, 2014 at 2:49 pm
start crying
selino bwalya
February 12, 2014 at 3:22 pm
you deserve to die befor you give birth,because you have shown that, you have no love for your husband.how could you go to your boyfriend while you were preparing for your wedding?you have also shown that you can not be trusted.live that holy man and move on with your life.
The Truth
February 12, 2014 at 3:30 pm
Thats what you get for not saying the truth. Now live with it and you can’t hide such…..All the best
Straight talk
February 12, 2014 at 3:59 pm
The solution lies with you.You started it and you should end it.But remember,the truth will come out either now or later.So its up to you but if i were you,i will tell the situation to both and face the consequences.Its a shame but it ca’nt stop being a shame wether you say it now or later.It will be more devasting if you keep it for long.
broughton
February 12, 2014 at 4:38 pm
sorry my sister telling your huby will be the best solution…but first tell your bana mukombe(I mean the one wo taught u before your wedding) she or he is the only one wo is going to help you to talk to your huby…..I know wn your give yourself in prayers god wil help you….We all sin no one is prfect….wishing you all the best…….(I conquer to comment wich fwamoneka wrote)
broughton
February 12, 2014 at 4:41 pm
sorry my sister telling your huby will be the best solution…but first tell your bana mukombe(I mean the one wo taught u before your wedding) she or he is the only one wo is going to help you to talk to your huby…..I know wn your give yourself in prayers god wil help you….We all sin no one is prfect….wishing you all the best…….(I conquer the comment wich fwamoneka wrote)
ks
February 12, 2014 at 5:02 pm
you are a ****** person. this is what you should tell yourself. you must be prepared to live with your sin if you cant repent it. you shall never prosper as you let deception run your affair and know that that is a good ground for Satan and a route to all evil that Satan will bring in your life.
leave that man and let another man accept you and you will repent in life never to do it again. just leave him if you cant tell him
fchibs
February 12, 2014 at 5:16 pm
The true fact of the matter is that no sin on earth shall go unpunished.Atleast you need to pay the price for your sin.First thing tell your bana bukombe about your predicament.Wait for the response from your husband.Remember that the wages of sin is death and the fate of your sin shall be met by you soon.
Edward Snowden
February 12, 2014 at 5:47 pm
The worst thing you can do is not to tell your husband the truth. the fact is one day, the truth will come out and imagine the kind of pain your man will feel then! Tell him the truth now, if it means you losing him, you will but you will keep the most valuable asset, a peace of mind!
By Umukwinjikiji
February 12, 2014 at 11:57 pm
My dear girl, kufyalapo umwana opo taulaikatwa namalwele. Chilifye bwino tawaipaya umuntu awe. Bengi saana fyachitikila ifyo. Bonse babili ngabakukana ukese kuli inebo nkakupa ifyofine nefumo. Afterlaw ulimusuma ine ukesenfyalila bampundu. Take it easy.
Good boy
February 13, 2014 at 11:20 am
That is a very sad story. The best you can do is tell your husband, no matter what. Even if it means losing your marriage, that is a terrible sin to just keep to yourself.Tell your husband and be free, be on the side of GOD and what GOD wants is you to be right with HIM. THis is just earthly life, we expect another life, play your cards well, by being on the side of GOD.
Melvin Zulu
February 13, 2014 at 12:16 pm
You know what? Those were your decisions and now that it’s late you are seeking advise?????
Please leave your husband and remain doing what ever with your boyfriend. You should take responsibility of your actions.
My assumption is your husband provides you everything that’s why you are not thinking of the worst for the two of you.
Leave him. Let him find a befitting wife that will provide him his children and mostly love.
chasulwa
February 13, 2014 at 12:43 pm
chinyo chobe makaka ukafyala akanyo kobe
moze
February 13, 2014 at 12:45 pm
we ulewe, you are even saying he has me, you need to repent!
banakulu chansa
February 13, 2014 at 1:13 pm
what a blunder this is. sorry oo!!!! you are too weak and it seems you love your boyfriend more than your husband. get back to your boyfriend and marry. You will still deceive your husband in future and have children from differrent men.
FRANCIS
February 13, 2014 at 1:28 pm
BE STRONG,WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES AND YOURS IS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE YOU WEDDED.FORGET YOUR BOYFRIEND AND CONCENTRATE IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
Kelvin Chulu
February 13, 2014 at 2:35 pm
You are an adult who doesn’t need advice on such a ****** matter.
Oracle
February 20, 2014 at 8:08 am
Absolutely Kelvin!!! She should sort this mess herself. How could she…..
Oracle
dancing
February 13, 2014 at 2:54 pm
nika ka liule cee
chanukha
February 13, 2014 at 3:14 pm
I feel for the young lady, but how many of us men are fathering children that we didnt produce. These women keep alot of secrets that its God that will help in upon confession. The young lady should just keep it to herself until death. kufwa na NO. Many men today are just cretakers of the children they call their own. After all, its the woman who knows the father to the child.
Malchi
February 13, 2014 at 3:19 pm
“No one should ask me to tell my husband the truth, I can’t! Please what are the other options for me”? Live with the guilt forever and ever.
chanukha
February 13, 2014 at 3:33 pm
I feel for the young lady, but how many of us men are fathering children that we didnt produce. These women keep alot of secrets that its only the merciful God that will help them upon confession. The young lady should just keep it to herself until death. kufwa na NO. Many men today are just cretakers of the children they call their own. After all, its the woman who knows the father to the child.
Wotembenuka..
February 13, 2014 at 3:36 pm
I wasn’t suppose to comment…but napapaa..no buule naunfwaa…mwandi uliule…and if iwas yo husband…and I found out…try using your legs for running this time around instead of having them open for once…
big
February 13, 2014 at 4:34 pm
Wechisushi weeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
This life
February 13, 2014 at 5:02 pm
Hey, how many men out there had sex with other women in the process of serious preparations towards their weddings/marriages. And whether or not those sexual encounters produced children. so let not play innocence here. Sex outside marriage has NEVER ever been good whether you are married or not. Please stop it now. First ask God for forgiveness and talk to you husband yoself if can or ask someone matured and God fearing to talk to hubby in your presences. just the three of you to discuss. if yo hubby will need someone else to join you please allow it. But from the 3 of u the next course action will only depend on yo hubby’s reaction. As for me my desire is to remain at the feet of Jesus all the days of life. my God help u.
Inzaghi
February 13, 2014 at 6:50 pm
This story emanates from Enugu, Nigeria. Such stories are very much a common place in that country. But Zambia is no exception. A big lesson to all who are ‘caught up’ in such messy situations. My advice to the girl; tell your hubby he deserves to know the truth as it woulf not be fair to him if you continue to keep quiet about it. More often than not and sadly to say, such marriages end up in divorce. I see the girl having two or more babies with the BF than her hubby…so what’s the point in marrying him. Problem is there are men….ifipuba ku matu ndwi…balemulila lyonse lyonse….the Bible says..: “the heart is teacherous who can know it?” Just tell the truth and hope for a better outcome in your favor of course.
Bind
February 14, 2014 at 9:59 am
If i read ten stories and am told one of them is just fiction, and i was asked to guess which i would select this one.
lolo
February 14, 2014 at 3:15 pm
Very ****** gal, silly!
Common Man
February 14, 2014 at 7:32 pm
u suck mey GOD delive you
Evans zulu
February 14, 2014 at 7:56 pm
that’s bad ask 4 4giveness
Sibwiidu
February 15, 2014 at 2:28 am
Slut…
mak 1
February 15, 2014 at 8:38 am
to bad my dear
dnice
February 16, 2014 at 11:28 am
we chifi we. uli ule and you must suffer the consequences of your stupidness
master chi
February 18, 2014 at 1:25 pm
aim sorry dear bt the trueth is pray to God that he hlp u and make sure u tell yo husband the trueth then u sha be free tho its hard.filacitika like the way it happened.
KK
February 19, 2014 at 2:04 pm
You caused ths trouble in yo life mama, how abt yo HIV status, remember wages of sine. Try pray for yo marriage or else no prosperity
G.Child
February 23, 2014 at 8:08 pm
just let your boyfriend finish what he has started
Umziya
February 28, 2014 at 9:12 am
Abort!!!!!!
Stevecare
March 1, 2014 at 3:13 pm
Bad news lapela feela.
Jiji Mulundika
March 5, 2014 at 1:15 am
Continue life with your boyfriend and leave your husband free from your unfaithfulness. He deserves better and it is clear you are attached to your boyfriend. You will have nothing to lose except that you will be doing your husband a favour of freeing him. WHat you love, you let go, lest you harm it.
km
March 7, 2014 at 11:31 am
Do not tell him but still the truth will show its face at thhe right time. God shall bring all works into judgment whether be it good or bad says Ecclesiastics. Fear God.
ak styles
March 8, 2014 at 9:15 pm
woman,u a e ho.a hooooooooooooo!wat a post mrs ho.
Bestman
March 8, 2014 at 9:51 pm
My darling sister the Bible say, say the truth and the truth will sent you free. Tell you husband the hole truth what happened, definetry he will fill bad but if he truly love you he will understand your situation and he will still need to marry you.
Its not your husband you are telling the truth but Gog almighty.