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Dear Readers: I’m TIRED Of Being Treated Like A Maid
From a female reader,
I live with my cousin with her husband and their 3 sons. Everyday I wake up 5 am to babysit her 3rd son, and then after the 1st n 2nd son are back from school, I cook for them, do the dishes.
I’ve got nothing from them. I buy my own things include the body soap, Colgate. When we go out, Im the one Who carry their baby, some people think I’m their maid, and they never tell the people that I’m not their maid, they just ignore them and smile. I’m not mad if they ask me to babysit their kids, but I’m disappointed and tired.
Posted by
Abakonzi
March 13, 2014 at 10:10 am
We need a well mannered Christian live-in baby minder(sitter),if you wouldn’t mind doing that work with working conditions to be negotiated with you.Godbless(Mansa,luapula)
KA GELO
March 13, 2014 at 10:31 am
Move out and find a place of your own. That is the price you pay for being kept by others. What about the food, shelter, tv, water, electricity you are enjoying, do you pay for them?
umuzompiki
March 13, 2014 at 3:42 pm
yes that’s true! its pure leziness
Mbama
March 13, 2014 at 11:05 am
My sister if they are people who you think can be talked to- go ahead and tell them- maybe they see nothing wrong with the situ and are oblivious to how you feel. If you think they are unreasonable still talk to them but prepare for the worst. Otherwise that is blatant exploitation of you. You deserve an allowance in the least. We hv a close relative who works as a “maid” but we ensure we pay her K200 a week.
Kabova
March 15, 2014 at 11:36 pm
What about rentals and other bills? Does she pay for that? She is the one exdploiting them. Besides, she is disturbing the family. She has overstayed their hospitality.
gile
March 13, 2014 at 11:13 am
madam find something to do or get married how old r u by the way
icinshikululwa
March 13, 2014 at 11:30 am
Women pliz stop akapatulula; treating yo huzbandz relativez kwati uli isulu lyamwanakashi; ata bane! Ukusamwa! Its not kolyokolyo, women has a deadly greep on manz relative. Yes, I mean; most of them.
trans
March 13, 2014 at 12:27 pm
Sad story, they must atleast give you some thing for upkeep
kwa george
March 13, 2014 at 12:27 pm
YOU FORGOT TO TELL US WHETHER YOU ARE RENTING SPACE IN THEIR HOUSE AND WHETHER YOU PROVIDE YOUR OWN FOOD.
Humphrey Mwelwa
March 13, 2014 at 12:44 pm
My sis life is hard in dis world.continue workin hard & pray 2 God he wil reward mo.shem upon dat cousin of yors.
Umupandapwiti
March 13, 2014 at 12:48 pm
Just get a job!!!
diamond platinum
March 13, 2014 at 12:50 pm
We have jst heard part of your story,mayb its you who have the problem.where do u find money to buy soap and some other thing?if u can manage this things then you can stay on your on.
dull as usual
March 13, 2014 at 1:39 pm
True that! She can find herself a ka small room to rent and have all the freedom!
mwamba mutale
March 13, 2014 at 1:01 pm
Pray hard mama. Thats just training you are going through. You will make a good wife
ubaba
March 13, 2014 at 2:29 pm
Oh very sorry, but put all your hopes to God one day, you will have your own house.
Wellard
March 13, 2014 at 2:29 pm
Earn your keep, or move out.
Wellard
March 13, 2014 at 2:39 pm
……or find a rich man, get pregnant and live like a queen for the rest of your life.
NGOSHE KU BWENDO
March 13, 2014 at 3:04 pm
Dear Sister,
Greetings and peace, joy and love from myself. Fundamental issues that you nmust clear before we can render any help include but are not limited to the following:
1. How old are you?
2. How far have you gone in school?
3. What skills do you have?
4. What is the exact relationship between yourself and the owners of the house? (Describe the cousinship)
5. Who is seemingly cruel towards you between the husband and the man?
6. How do you relate with the man when the wife is not around?
7. Does the husband look at you with that kama euye which makes the wife susspicious about the two of you?
8. What are your future plans?
Twebeko.
Trixy
March 14, 2014 at 4:48 pm
Question number 7!!!! ummmmmmmmmm
umuzompiki
March 13, 2014 at 3:53 pm
ke ke ke ke !!! you want just to be eating and sitting watching tv in someone’s hse, walitumpa. stop complaing and get out that hse, if you cant handle the situation. its there home and they will run it they way they feel fit. ifyabupubafye!!!
JONATHAN C MULENGA
March 13, 2014 at 5:28 pm
THATS WHAT I CALL A SERVANT RELATIVE. LOOK FOR A MISTER RIGHT AND GET MARRIED.THERE ARE MANY SINGLE MAN WHO ARE LOOKING FOR A WOMAN OF YOUR CALIBRE.
plize cal me on 0977593566
March 13, 2014 at 5:35 pm
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wise man
March 13, 2014 at 8:15 pm
pls call me 0967507204
joshua jones
March 14, 2014 at 1:37 am
No pain No gain…
kayula
March 14, 2014 at 5:44 am
How far hav you gone with your education? will you be intrested to continue from where you ended?
John musole
March 14, 2014 at 8:20 am
hi ba tumfweko pliz update us the latest news
Umupandapwiti
March 14, 2014 at 9:29 am
A maid you are and a maid you will die. Only mops and brooms will mourn you!!!
Trixy
March 14, 2014 at 4:49 pm
kkki kiki kiki….awe sure you guys….the poor girl wants to be consoled and this is what you tell her? lol!!
Ba Shifwe
March 14, 2014 at 12:00 pm
Always remember to be kind to the next person. You never know what tomorrow holds, also never look under upon anybody in life. Life is full of twist and turns. Always embrace kindness. Let the couple seek wisdom
Evans
March 14, 2014 at 6:27 pm
Am still waiting for your call pliz!
Evans
March 14, 2014 at 6:30 pm
My # is 0977593566
Evans
March 14, 2014 at 6:32 pm
Am still waiting for your call pliz! My # is 0977593566
Love
March 14, 2014 at 7:25 pm
The best solution I can give you, is ask for a weekend off to socialise, if they refuse you, hang oround a friend who is renting a place so that you can share the cost of living, you can do it. If you are above 16 yrs, you are capable of doing it, they are doing that to you because they feel you have no where to go and have a comfortable life. Secondly look for a part time or short course like social work, tailaring and I am sure people can help you get on your feet, do not resort to selling your body in exchange for a life. Talk to your brother in-law if your cousin seems jealous of you because of your appearance, tell them that you want to go to school in the evening courses and if they are willing, then continue to help them with children, if not, pls have a way out because you will end up hurting those kids with frustration of being trapped in their system.
Thirdly, think of the service you are giving them as a gift not like working for them, it will help lift the heaviness on your shoulder. Pls do not throw yourself in the street due to emotional infridgement. Talking help even if it hurts people, but saying it out will make them know your position in their home. I hope this help. God will bless you too with a great man who will help you succeed in life.
rsk
March 14, 2014 at 8:17 pm
if u are not comfortable try to look for the house to rent i had the same problem like u have.the only difference am a man this time u can’t kno that i used to like that i have my own shops and am driving.stop crying but think BIG
nana
March 15, 2014 at 11:41 am
Hmmmmmm ba mbama, how do u proudly say that u hav a close relative working as a “maid” for u? Its better u just give her an allowance for her up keep to just show how greatful u hav her around!!!! Having ur close relative as ur help “maid” is wrong!!!
Mushota's Kwabwa's solola
March 15, 2014 at 8:03 pm
My dear you sound so bitter, just by reading the first lines in your story , even people who are illiterate can tell that you have some issues. there is nothing wrong with been a dependant and I think you have issues with that going back to how you mentioned what you had to do on a daily basis. Stop being envious of your sister in law and try and fix yourself.