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Evelyn Hone Lecturer Narrates How Hubby Denied Her Sex Over Chibwantu
A LUSAKA Boma Local Court has heard that Douglas Hampande, a former Evelyn Hone lecturer has been denying his wife Mundia Mushokwe- a lecturer- her conjugal rights since October 2011 because she fails to prepare Chibwantu for him.
This was in a case in 40 year-old Hampande, now a senior officer at National Aids Council (NAC) was sued for divorce by his wife Mushokwe,33.
According to the divorce papers filed at Lusaka Boma Local Court, the duo got married 2 years ago and has 2 children together.
In her testimony before Senior Presiding Magistrate Elipher Mwewa who was sitting with Senior Court Magistrate Abyshine Michelo, Mushokwe, a lecturer at Evelyn Hone College said she couldn’t continue in a marriage where the head of the house believed the union was a mistake and a source of his spiritual problems. The emotional Mushokwe also complained that she no longer has a say in the marriage and added that Hampande has been accusing her of mistreating his relatives.
Mushokwe further complained that Hampande had been starving her of her conjugal rights since late last year.
“He comes home late every night and the last time we had sex was October last year. Two weeks ago, we were in court seeking reconciliation but to no avail. I can’t take this no more,” said Mushokwe, in between sobs.
But Hampande, a well known media personality who has not only written for a number of media outlets but also lectured journalism students at among other institutions Evelyn Hone College said his wife’s behaviour left much to be desired.
He accused his wife of being arrogant and irresponsible adding that she ill-treats his relatives. The slender looking Hampande also claimed that he’s lost a considerable amount of body weight because of Mushokwe’s bad attitude towards his relatives.
When asked by the court why he’s been refusing to perform his ‘bedroom roles’ since October 2011, as claimed by Mushokwe, Hampande responded: “ I am a very energetic Tonga man who enjoys sex so much but I have deprived myself because of my emotions… I do this as a counter reaction to my wife’s attitude….. She doesn’t cook traditional foods for me. My Tonga maid taught her how to prepare Chibwantu for me but she does not do it. I love Chibwantu so much,” said Hampende as the court audience burst into laughter.
The Chibwantu Hampande was refereeing to is a well known delicacy among the Tonga people and other tribes alike. Cream white in colour, Chbwantu is an energetic drink whose nearest traditional competitor is Munkoyo.
And Hampande clarified that problems in their marriage were not because of another woman he was seeing. He insisted that their differences were internal.
And Hampande did not object to the divorce application by his wife saying their marriage wasn’t meant to be.
Passing ruling on the matter, the court observed that it was sad that the two respected members of the society were washing their dirty linen in public. But the court did not hesistate to dissolve their marriage saying this was because both of them had made up their minds over the issue.
Upon granting divorce to the couple, Senior Presiding Magistrate Mwewa ordered Hampande to compensate his wife with K3 million and maintain his children with a monthly allocation of K300,000.
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HENRY BANDA
August 3, 2012 at 5:41 pm
oppipio
melody ndeifulila
August 3, 2012 at 5:43 pm
wrong Headline. chibwantu has got nothing to do with the case at hand. Coming to the issue, fasting yourself until something changes is not a problem. so the woman should have asked and probably the man would have asked why the chilala
the sea Eagle
August 3, 2012 at 6:05 pm
Chibwantu and Munkoyo are one and the same thing.
gervase bwalya
August 3, 2012 at 6:23 pm
ba mudala bali na hidden agenda,it is not only chibwantu.learn to resolve issues nicely.
yalmaz
August 3, 2012 at 6:32 pm
mukazi achito lila ndaba ya s**..khoma ndipo!
pamjay
August 3, 2012 at 7:02 pm
Bro,divorce z not a solution,bcoz marriage z a blessing frm God & no man shud separate. No 1 z perfect.
ICE REKODZ
August 3, 2012 at 8:12 pm
Is ds man really a Tonga?? Since October, awe wachilamo. I think da wife evn 4got hw swt s** it.
FBI
August 3, 2012 at 11:36 pm
Sad for hear respected n educated citizen sinking this low.
Just a pointer…….maid thought his wife to make chibwathu.
I smell a rat………maid must have been giving it to ba lecturer.
Maid anamu sokoneza nayo s** lecturer.
Mbulwe.MC
August 4, 2012 at 5:48 am
Its important to make a right decision when choosing a life partner.Smple principle,woman submitt to your husband and husbands love you wives.When a woman is arrogant,she simply does not love the husband and NO man can fail to Love a submissive wife. When a man is affected Emotionally and the problem is not resolved he can not perform in bed.Understand that one wrong choice or decision the offspring are the ones that suffer.My general observation is that divorced young women less than 35years, tend to neglect their children because of frustration and they children are seen as a hindrance in catching another lover.
kakolwe
August 4, 2012 at 6:03 am
Seems like chibwantu is the Tonga Red Bull. Fact: Arrogant wife vs Chibwantu making maid. There’s more than chibwantu from the maid!
oxmos
August 4, 2012 at 6:34 am
if a man cant resolve the bedroom issues but goes on to boost of being tonga,it doesnt count..lets learn to give our wives the best in bed and love them,then we will receive back anything we demand from them,whats with us african men?
Mbewe
August 4, 2012 at 7:59 am
Women in marriages be careful you make one mistake,he goes kwi hule and hules are very caring in everything,so stop ukutumpa women.
Ton
August 4, 2012 at 10:37 am
Devorce is not a solution bro.be man enough,think over it and bring back your wife.
kajinta
August 4, 2012 at 11:56 am
what a Tonga bull, divorce is not a solution ba lecturer mwatusebanya…kikikikiki
Amazwi ya Mukombe
August 4, 2012 at 12:57 pm
Foolish lecturers and a very poor example to society.
Wanu Ngwee
August 4, 2012 at 1:57 pm
JUST VOTE FOR TALIA
The Academician
August 4, 2012 at 2:02 pm
I just wish to learn one thing. Why is that in the local courts, it is always the man that must compensate the woman even when it is the woman demanding the divorce or the one in the wrong?
Chimba III
August 4, 2012 at 3:32 pm
Two years of marriage with two children-This is really a Tonga bull.
THE SAINT
August 4, 2012 at 4:38 pm
Why is sex so important to people? It is one of the most over rated and over hyped of any creature’s activity. NO ONE HAS EVER DIED for not having sex. Sex was not even the reason why God instituted marriage. Get over it! Companionship is what you are there for. Sex is to produce children.
Wisdom
August 4, 2012 at 6:34 pm
Mbulwe.MC you are the only one who is reasoning whilst others have posted their comments just to kill time.
Danderous Mind
August 4, 2012 at 9:26 pm
Douglas Hampande(soft MOJO)…a friend and classmate to Zophele Ngoma(UNZA open) @ UNZA from 1994 to 1998.
mwinsho wesu
August 4, 2012 at 11:12 pm
ya students and maids can give
kakolwe
August 4, 2012 at 11:15 pm
@the saint, If God meant s€x 4 children in humans, ladies should have been going on heat.
eng
August 4, 2012 at 11:23 pm
a marriage will start like a fire and lose its brilliance with time.its either wife stops enjoying sex with her hubby or the other way round or both.to a worser extent, wife may reveal past sexual experience which will finish of the marriage.its best to divorce in such a circumstance otherwise its indeed a shipikisha club
ukwa@ mid9te
August 5, 2012 at 12:21 am
indeed divorce is not a solution.Let these tongabulls learn from us the lozis how we do the nyengix on their sisters(tongaladies)three times a day. Hope Michelo is reading this.
James
August 5, 2012 at 6:41 am
Mbulwe MC, I’ve been following your comments almost everyday which always contains slot of sense. I may need your contact number for social purposes. In on 0965 859803. It will be great to hear your voice.
Obed M.S.
August 5, 2012 at 10:33 am
I wish to agree with what Mbulwe has said. These days ladies want to be arrogant since many are educated. It is the duty of a woman to feed the husband his prefered food, so long he has provided the necessary ingredients. If one can not follow this simple issue, then she does not deserve to be married. God has asked our women folk for one important thing – OBEDIENCE.
Luweme
August 6, 2012 at 11:11 am
Wafa ne nsala!
Tiko Tiko
August 6, 2012 at 11:45 am
The maid is behind all this. Poor wife, she lost it to the maid, it was beyond or more than chibwantu.
Hard Monk
August 6, 2012 at 12:23 pm
Dangerous Mind, you quote “Zophele Ngoma, Hampande’s friend, of being UNZA OPEN from 1994 to 1998, can you elaborate on this please. Did she open her legs to everyone?
Peter madla
August 6, 2012 at 1:56 pm
The problem is with the maid….