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Kingdom Hubby 2nd Part
This is meant to build men and not to abuse anybody. It is also meant for you to check yourself and try to be a better hubby and father
What Manner of Husband are you?
How can your wife describe you? Below are few categories of Husband:
(1) Autocratic Husband: He is a self knowledge, self involved, unbending, unyielding husband. Nobody can correct him, nobody can counsel him, to him, he knows everything. He has no mentor, he does not fear anyone, honor or even respect anyone, He does not want anybody to advice him and he cannot be influenced or corrected by anyone especially his wife. He is a difficult man to be with.
(2) Corrosive Husband: he is abusive, hot tempered and a wife beater, he is not in charge of his temper, he is a no-joke, no-play, no-laughter and no-nonsense man. The house is a military camp; his room is the defense headquarters, while he is the garrison commander, lion of the family and commander in chief of family forces.
(3) Solo husband: he stays in separate room away from his wife. He is single but married. He prefers sharing his problem/heart aches with his friends, the only time he talks to the wife is when he needs food and sex. He is self concerned; his common words are “I, me, mine and myself”. He is full of self glorification and self justification.
(4) Semi husband: they are no real husbands, they are man under their trousers but lesser than that in their duties at home. They are real men in bed and on the dinning table, but when it comes to paying school fees they are nothing, It is their wives that pay the house rent, electricity bills, buy food, etc not that they do not have money all they do is drink beer. A semi husband is a disgrace to manhood and to himself. Proverbs 24vs 27. 1Thimothy 5vs8
(5) Super market husband: These are the kind of husbands that are unfaithful to their wives. They are everybody’s husband. They spend lavishing prostitutes and concubines outside while giving little or nothing to their household. To a man like this anything in a skit is good for a bedmate. They pay huge amounts of money for hotel bills, they are shameless to the extent that they visit brothels for prostitutes or park their cars in the bush path to perform the ungodly act with immoral ladies. Some even go as far as reaching the sun by impregnating their housemaids and sleeping with their wives younger sister or even the neighbor’s child. Proverbs 7 vs 1-27
(6) Executive husbands: these are the kind of men that live their lives in an executive way. They do not allow their wives to have a close relationship with them. They operate their rooms as if it is the general manager’s office, no love, no romance and no intimacy. If their wives want to enter their room they have to knock and obtain permission before coming in. they issue orders to their family members as if it where workers under them and inform their families about future plans as addressing a press conference where no journalist is allowed to ask any question. Their wives cannot easily talk to them; in fact they have to send their children to them before they can get anything from them. Many of them want their wives to be full time house wives so that they can be in charge of them and have full control over them.
(7) Traditional Husband: They see their wives as properties they believe women are third class citizen, useful only in the kitchen and bedroom. To them a woman is just a cook, a tool of pleasure (sex) and a baby making machine. They give no attention to their wives, wives are seen as nothing just something that Is lower than their house maids. They believe that their young ones living with them should be served by their wives and that the young ones should never serve the wives. Most of them are still using the style of their grand fathers for their marriages. They believe love must not be shown to their wives, they must be beaten if they do something that he does not want. If they give birth to children who behave poorly they belong to their wife, if she fails to give birth to a boy than she is a failure…….
(8) Baby husband: They are not under aged men physically, but they are infants mentally. They know how to build a house but not how to build a home. If you want to know a baby husband look at the following: (*) He keeps malice with wife
(*) He rejects food because he is angry
(*) He beats the wife
(*) He embarrasses his wife in pubic
(*) He refuses to give money for food because of a little miss understanding
(*) Can never say am sorry
(*) Will never help the wife with work or even the baby
(*) He criticizes, condemns the wife and compares are with other women.
(*) He does not love the wife, if he does he cannot show or even say it.
(*) He leaves the house without telling anyone where he is going and only comes back around 03:30 in the morning
(*)He gives no room for romance and intimacy. All he wants is sex
(*)Never does anything to improve his marriage, like just pray or even to someone for example a Pastor or even go for counseling.
(9) Kingdom husbands. They are extra ordinary husbands. They are what God wants them to be as husbands. They know that their God is to be feared and worshiped, their wives are to be loved and their children are to be cared for. They are REAL MEN, men indeed, they are the sunshine in the life of their wives and children.
1. They are men of integrity. They mean what they say and say what they mean.
2. They pray with and for their wives.
3. They are faithful, loving and caring.
4. They cherish and nourish their wives.
5. They are good communicators in every way….
6. They lead the home with and in wisdom.
7. They provide for the family (1Timothy 5vs8)
8. Their wives know how much they earn.
9. They have respect for their wives.
10. They support their wives in all their good works.
Kingdom husbands are not common but God can make you one of them turning your house into a home to be.
Traits of uncommon Hubby
- God fearing: He fears God enough to obey his word. He fears the lord enough to care and provide for the family. No husband can be wonderful husband expect he is a Good fearing man.
- Godly Character. A great hubby is a man after the heart of God because he knows that your heat is hidden in God’s heart. He is gentle, loving, forgiving, supportive, wise and the list goes on and on. He does not attend night clubs, smoke or even practice adultery.
- Love. He loves the wife with his heart and is not ashamed to let the world know. He expresses love to his wife at any given opportunity. He loves the wife just like Christ loves the church.
- Respect and Honor…. I don’t know much about this but I think a great hubby has this…..
- Good communicator. A woman loves it when she is been heard when she is talking, she loves it more when you passionately what to listen (am poor at this). He speaks the truth in love and he is always positive in his reactions to his wife.
- Great leader. He is never a boss but a tender lover leader, he has a vision which he shares to the family.
- Diligent. A great hubby is a hard worker, he is not lazy, he always wants to put food on the table.
- Romantic. He wants to take her out for dinner, movie etc
- He is committed to marriage. He always wants to work out issues in the marriage.
- His wife is number one in his life after God. His wife is his thinking partner, friend, prayer partner and confident;
This is meant to build men and not to abuse anybody. It is also meant for you to check yourself and try to be a better hubby and father, am tired of hearing about divorce. I pray this will help us become what God intended as to be. LET US BUILD OUR HOMES. LUKE 1 vs 37.
I pray you become a kingdom hubby; if you are, may God increase you.
Posted by
NDIYO ZO PULAMA
October 27, 2012 at 10:30 am
i will never be any of the above mentioned husband.
THE EYE
October 27, 2012 at 10:42 am
THIS IS BULLSHIT,SO THERE ARE NO GOOD HUSBANDS YOU MEAN?ATASE POST THINGS THAT WILL BUILD UP MORALS NOT DECAYING ALA
mrs to be
October 27, 2012 at 10:43 am
Husband i want,but from the list above,i no go marry again
Mo taim
October 27, 2012 at 11:01 am
There is no category where am fitting in all of the above.What a poor article.
HUSBAND
October 27, 2012 at 11:05 am
Include the better hasbands please. Why did you deliberately omitt the other ones. Havent you mate good one before?
keo
October 27, 2012 at 11:07 am
What type of a hubby are you?i think you are talking from experience all of the above are in you
Genaro the Analyst
October 27, 2012 at 11:24 am
mere assumptions
Shibobo
October 27, 2012 at 11:30 am
To me this sounds like a reflection of the writer.He wanted an opion from people because he failed to believe when I described him as his personal friend.Boyi u have heard it for yourself.
Bonker
October 27, 2012 at 12:05 pm
The title of the article should be amended to read “Different Types of Bad Husbands”.
NDIYO ZO PULAMA
October 27, 2012 at 12:11 pm
Janet c whats your comment on this one?
NDIYO ZO PULAMA
October 27, 2012 at 12:12 pm
ba tumfweko..wats with this ok here it,which am not even typing
BryD
October 27, 2012 at 2:53 pm
This article is not complete or should I say poor editing cause there’s no where for me to fit. So dear editor please include my category, indeed good and perfect husband.LOVES the wife,children and the whole family, RULES the family with a tender heart, chats, laughs,provides for, and has time to pray for his family. The rest add.
Sunzu the tool
October 27, 2012 at 3:29 pm
Amasushi yaba Tumfweko yeka yeka
gayman
October 27, 2012 at 4:20 pm
so what is a perfect husband called in your delusional and schizoid world
Mr cool
October 27, 2012 at 5:05 pm
really not all husbands are covered plz add the good ones not only bad. we have good and bad things in life hence husbands. look at that has well.
ok,here it is?
October 27, 2012 at 5:09 pm
tumfweko ,y do u add words pipo have not posted؟
lmpangayamambwe
October 27, 2012 at 7:04 pm
then who is a real man coz their is no perfecto we ur all fools
Busa
October 27, 2012 at 8:24 pm
Iyo kwena.. So u were wasting yo time typing this one of the best poor article have neva read. Maybe u r one of those husbands. U knw wat, every story as a good ending i thot limbi mwalapwisha na Good husband. Nomba u were jst talking about bad husbands…. Find something to do……¤nafyooola¤
muntu
October 27, 2012 at 8:40 pm
Boyi just join bana fimbusa taukwete ifyakucita.that will not bring food on zed tables.fool
kakolwe
October 28, 2012 at 4:54 am
Situations & conditions will allow U to be a little bit of each state at a giiven time. That doesnt mean U are in arigid class as posted. We are good husbands. OK HERE IT IS!!!!!
Anzelu ku mawa.
October 28, 2012 at 5:10 am
There are so many husbands of good character, why not include them in your article?
Wifey
October 28, 2012 at 10:12 am
I agree with anzelu and kakolwe, even me, my hubby is a mixture of the above and mixture of any good yet to be posted therefore very difficult to predict. His biggest trait tho is failure to accept when wrong and somewhat loves women!!!
Diva
October 28, 2012 at 11:50 am
Uza peza kuti mwamuna alibe kamusango?? This is nonsense ukuya lemba fye ifi kwaliba abaume that are God fearing, respects the wife and provides for their families ninshi bena kuti baba bika pesa?
MK
October 28, 2012 at 1:12 pm
ama rubbish.
Asamunda
October 28, 2012 at 2:11 pm
Bafikala, u haven’t stopped ur nonsense? Grow up u idiots! This is crap! And u call urself a blogger? Shame! There’s more to life than reading ur useless opinions.
Abakonzi
October 28, 2012 at 2:33 pm
Women follow what this idiott has written above there and you’ll also be a concubine by the time you hit 30 something
richkid
October 28, 2012 at 5:53 pm
Anyway, that could be true. Everyone is unique.
Chita
October 29, 2012 at 7:57 am
Men are sulking at the article because they know that they fit in one of the categories. Just change for the better.
Bamwine
October 29, 2012 at 9:21 am
pipo y r u hate with this ARTICLE? ninshnmuvichita? as for me no need to be hate coz i know that this is total rubbish and my husband does’nt fit in any of the about misango mentioned.
Hidden Objects
October 29, 2012 at 9:55 am
Thanks to the writer of this story that has touched my heart. I have leaved a life style of a No. 1,2 and 4 which has made my life so miserable and this has made me marry 4 husbands in years because I am willing to have a home and a lovely husband who could share many issues with me but then unfortunately, I fall in the hands of the same types. May such hubbies please learn from others who knows how to handle wives. I wish my former husband has come across this reading especially No. 1 and 4. I have never been happy in life just because of this type of husbands and it has made me hate man as if they are all the same.
bangx
October 29, 2012 at 11:05 am
this is not complete
Cilibbebbede
October 29, 2012 at 11:32 am
Obviously I am a husband, a good lover and all that. But I certainly will never be any of the above. Could you please try and research further and get more husbands covered because some of us are not covered in your article at all.
Janet c
October 29, 2012 at 11:48 am
Typical Zambian Husband – drunkard, adulterer, huge ego (even when he has a crayon in his trousers), can’t deal with the fact that woman are now empowered therefore tries to oppress the wife by asking her to kneel when giving him food, by ordering her to cover up and not wear sexy clothes, orders wife to ‘seek permission’ to go out, expects wife to take his relatives’ shit…
kunda
October 29, 2012 at 1:24 pm
Janet c,
You are the craziest but i think there are a number like that out there…..THE EGO????????Awe sure
Mushkarano!!
October 29, 2012 at 2:13 pm
Ba tumfweko namukula sana muleichindika…sh!t..
Man of God
October 29, 2012 at 5:04 pm
You guys surprise me a lot
Kiyosaki
October 30, 2012 at 3:02 pm
Janet C walasa. Typical Zambian Husbands order their wives not to wear sexy clothes yet thats what they follow with their younger concubines. They demand warm bathing water even when they do not pay for ZESCO or buy malasha. Stay away from their families and are not well known to their children. they would rather spend on beer and adultery than upkeep and school fees for their wife and children, etc.ok, here it is;