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Why ZAMBIAN LADIES End Up SINGLE FOR LIFE
1. Many ladies will end up singles for life because of media exposure- it is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to focus on television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell me, what else will dominate this lady’s mindset aside how to live a fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels?
2. Many ladies now dislike cooking and home chores just because they had been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that’s aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a zambian man to desire to marry when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself?
3. Modern fashion and craze for gadgets is a great barrier to most ladies finding love and marriage. How do we explain a single lady whose only desire in life is to acquire the latest clothe in town, the latest mobile phone and pad to the detriment of her woman worth? How can a single lady maintain this lifestyle for long without bowing low to immoral lifestyle? How do you expect a man from a responsible family background, and who is in his right senses to propose marriage to a lady whose utmost desire and concern in life is to acquire costly electronic gadgets, clothes, jewelry, perfume, etc? Of course, majority of men would like to date such a trendy lady for fun and show-off, but wouldn’t want to propose marriage to such a lady even if she is earning the money herself because her expensive lifestyle already is a big turn off to most responsible serious-minded single men. Only men that are out to catch fun will be closely attracted to her, and her chances of getting a marriage proposal from them is as slim as a camel passing through the eye of a needle.
4. Excessive makeup turns most decent and serious-minded men off – if you have observed, you will discover that most men dislike excessive makeup, and more don’t even like it at all; reason they often times discourage their true loved ones to do away with it cos it speaks ill of a lady even though so many men will applaud and complement you for looking like an Egyptian mummy. A slight makeup is okay; but if you are out for marriage, try always to look simple and natural, it will attract better men, decent and serious-minded, except you are still living in your high school life and not thinking towards marriage.
5. Cut Down Your Participation in social network sites – if possible, close your facebook and twitter accounts because they may be doing you more harm than good, but you wouldn’t know until you hit 35yrs plus and still single and searching. If you cannot maintain a sizeable number of vital friends and family members as friends on your facebook, twitter, etc accounts, then you need to close the account and focus with your offline life. No man would want to marry a lady who jumps from one social network site to another because it is a clear sign of an unfaithful lady or about to be unfaithful lady, yes, that’s how men view it. Who are you to have a thousand friends on facebook, same on twitter, maybe on wassap, 2go, twoo, BBM, badoo, eskimi, etc?
6. Stop Giving Your Number Out To Every Dick & Harry! No man would want to propose marriage to a lady whose phone is always talking and laughing with unserious calls. You may not be a playgirl, but he would judge you as one, and will likely flee at the slightest chance or disagreement.
7. You Don’t Bring Any Value Into The Life Of Men You Date or Are Dating – because your best friend married without contributing anything to the man that finally married her, doesn’t mean it will work for you that way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so that you can be a value and also add value to his life to convince him that you are worth committing to. Adding value to his life isn’t by giving him money, or material gifts, nope….good counsels, being his best friend, helping him attain his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and spiritual support, and by not just being a liability that only bring requests and problems to be solved.
8. Your Friends Run Your Life – how do you expect to find a husband when you still allow your clique of friends to be dictating which man you meet is worthy of your love and which is not? When will you wake up and face the fact that those your best friends even though they cherish you, wouldn’t want you to marry before them or to marry the best man?
9. You Move Around In Groups – often times, you miss the advance of a good decent man when you move in group, be wise. Again, men don’t always fancy ladies that move around in group because most ladies can only be reasonable when you separate them from their group of friends.
10. You Give Everything Out During Dating – As a single lady who has not been taken to the altar, you need to reserve some things for your husband to be, especially your body, respect it and preserve it at all cost. In the past, men rushed to marry to get certain things or privileges they had been constantly denied while being single. Such privileges include and not limited to: constant sex and companionship, good food and tidied home, etc. But today, a single man gets even the best and of course more of constant sex, good food and excellent home-keeping more than his married counterparts, so tell me how the hell you want him to desire to marry you when you have given him virtually everything he desires from a wife while being his girlfriend? And the most painful part of it all is that he knows that you are prepared to cut down on sex supply, cooking, home-keeping, etc once he marries you, so why would he not want you to remain his girlfriend for life?
For instance, everywhere you go today, you hear majority of single ladies crying that they won’t be a cook for their husbands, that their husband must know how to cook and must be participating equally in cooking and home-keeping, that they cannot marry a man who cannot cook or keep the home clean and all of that, but these single ladies are doing these things happily for their boyfriends and perceived fiancés without complain, but they keep complaining that they won’t do it when they finally marry, and the single men are hearing all these.
Now, a particular single man has three to four girlfriends who comes and cook, clean the house for him happily, and they also supply him with constant sex even when he doesn’t ask, and he is aware that once he marries any of them, she would stop or reduce the rate at which she cooks for him and would want him to be participating in the cooking, say; 60-40% of the time, and he knows too that if he marries any of them, she would start to deny him sex whenever she deems fit in the name of ‘I’m not in the mood’ or ‘I’m exhausted at work or business’ etc, but she was never tired to do any of the aforementioned things while dating the man, so tell me sincerely, how do we expect single men of today to still desire to marry like their fathers and forefathers desired to marry, with all these shabby scenarios surrounding our today ladies?
11. You Package Yourself Wrongly – in your attempt to look sexy, adorable and maybe appealing to guys, you have derailed from appealing to appalling. In fact you look more whorish than modest; more distractive than attractive, and more disgusting than adorable. Your dressing style determines who gets attracted to you most times. If you dress high school, only high school-thinking guys will be attracted to you, and if you dress excessively sexy and provocative, only randy men will come to you for urgent satisfaction of their immediate sex urge, so don’t be fooled by media hyping of certain kinds of dressing, they are meant for certain set of ladies you wouldn’t like to be associated with, be careful. Remember, not all clothes that look sexy are good for a seriously searching for a soul mate single lady.
12. You Lack Manner, Character, Wisdom and Good Home Upbringing – definitely, your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’, ‘sexy girl’ looks will win you so many men; both the good, and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character and manner are the things that will determine whether any of those men would stay or run after accomplishing their evil missions. In order words, do away with nagging, being possessive, challenging with men in negative ways, the mentality of ‘what a man can do a woman can do better’, a lie devil has used to deceive and destroy so many ladies today, please do away with it.
13. You Are A Liability – in as much as we know that the present economy of Zambia and the world in general is harsh, men and society in general careless about how you react to this situation, how do I mean? Read on.
You are from a poor family background, and you have no job or you are earning below $1000 a month but you want to wear designer clothes, shoes, jewelry, perfume and also carry Prada and Gucci hand bags. You want to use the most expensive gadgets- mobile phones, pads, etc. you are from a poor family background, or average family, etc is not a justifiable reason for you to be depending on men for virtually everything you need in life. Show yourself some respect.
And don’t think you can split your exorbitant expenses amongst different men, by dating different men so that you won’t be demanding from that one you truly love amongst them, so that he will be convinced that you are a good girl who doesn’t demand, fallacy! A man knows when his woman is sleeping around with other men to meet her needs, most men only decide to keep mute for reasons, don’t get it twisted, but hardly will they marry you- that’s why you see a lot of pretty ladies complain; “after giving him my love, my body, my heart, and did everything for him, etc, he paid me back with heartbreak, God will punish him, blah, blah, blah” says who? Of course you don’t expect a man in his rightful senses to marry an unrepentant whore, do you? Would you welcome your own brother bringing home a playgirl as his would-be wife, be honest please?
There are zillions of decent and honorable things you can do as a single lady to at least meet your own financial needs without sleeping around with men or depending on one man to supply all your needs. Finally, cut your skirt according to your length. You are from a poor family, your parents earn below $3000 a month, but you want to look like Rihanna, wear the same clothe she wears, you want to live a similar life Beyonce, Genevieve and Tiwa Savage lives, and you want to dine in the costliest hotels and restaurants, and you are jobless or earning below $2000 a month. Now tell me sincerely, how is it possible to achieve this foolish goal without patronizing immoral lifestyle to meet the insatiable demands?
14. Your Role Models Are Totally Strange And Bad! If you want to be a great woman tomorrow, start now to emulate great women- study their foot parts, their lifestyle, their ways and try to inculcate their lifestyle into yours. Stop looking up to music stars and fake celebrity ladies, etc as your only role model in life. What happened to looking up to women like- Margaret Mwanakatwe, Hilary Clinton, Michele Obama, etc?
Stop gluing your eyes on fashion TV, Fashion One, Big Brother TV Show, E! etc, and start now to build interest in economy issues, current affairs, economy and business news, watch more of CNN, National Geographic channel, Channels TV, ESPN, Discovery World, Animal Planet, Aljazeera TV, Super Sports, etc, these are what men love to see women do cos only a handful of women show interest in these, and those few women are those ones that end up being great women in future. Movie Magic, Africa Magic will only inculcate bad habit, poor manner and laziness in you, please wake up before you end up single for life, which I pray not.
Edward Mukuka
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Boss Lady
November 2, 2012 at 1:23 am
Fyafula,Too much to read,one can even miss the point
Fyafula
November 2, 2012 at 4:45 pm
Ubukopo no reading culture in Zambia
Uncle Junior
November 2, 2012 at 9:52 pm
Typical of the young generation who can not read more than 128 characters!
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November 2, 2012 at 3:11 am
Men want dumbass women with no skills and no brains to depend on them. Makes them feel more like the “man”, the “provider”. generally speaking, of course. A self-sufficient woman with brains is a threat to the majority of insecure men who feel they have to know more, make more money and be in control. And an older woman? Forget it. I’m here to tell you, I’ve been fighting this for decades, but men won’t change. Women.s rights only make it worse, so a woman has to make a choice…educate herself and learn to sustain herself OR choose a man. And chances are, with mens “When your wife turns 40, trade her in for two twenties” attitude, she’s going to find herself out there in the world knowing nothing and have no skills when he does dump her for getting old anyway so she’s better off sustaining herself and leaving men alone. Trying to get educated and employed at 40 or so is even tougher than trying to get a man at that age.
MONKU
November 2, 2012 at 11:13 am
ever wandered why our parents never divorced? Miss clever, despite our mothers never working yet you have grown to b wat u r?
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November 2, 2012 at 3:25 am
Men want dumbass women with no skills and no brains to depend on them. Makes them feel more like the “man”, the “provider”. generally speaking, of course. A self-sufficient woman with brains is a threat to the majority of insecure men who feel they have to know more, make more money and be in control. And an older woman? Forget it. I’m here to tell you, I’ve been fighting this for decades, but men won’t change. Women.s rights only make it worse, so a woman has to make a choice…educate herself and learn to sustain herself OR choose a man. And chances are, with mens “When your wife turns 40, trade her in for two twenties” attitude, she’s going to find herself out there in the world knowing nothing and have no skills when he does dump her for getting old anyway so she’s better off sustaining herself and leaving men alone. Trying to get educated and employed at 40 or so is even tougher than trying to get a man at that age………….
Rita Mweene
November 3, 2012 at 4:31 am
WELL SAID!!
Kleptocrats
November 2, 2012 at 3:38 am
Tumfweko stole the article from the kenyan DAILY POST!! They just changed Kenya and typed Zambia… kekekeke thiefs, now my comment is waiting for moderation… hahahaha
BIGMAN
November 2, 2012 at 12:13 pm
It doesn’t matter stolen or not it’s message being put across very educative.
Kleptocrats
November 2, 2012 at 3:49 am
just google.. kenya daily post why women end up single. and see for yourself
Kleptocrats
November 2, 2012 at 3:54 am
caught ya!!
Kleptocrats
November 2, 2012 at 3:56 am
Wednesday October 31, 2012 – Police officers in Tharaka Nithi District have arrested a man, 84, who defiled a 9 -year old girl at Kathuri village in Kamaguna location.
According to the police, the mother of the girl had sent the minor to borrow sugar but she found the door locked. The suspect then called her to his house.
Another girl spotted the minor entering in the suspect’s house and rushed to inform her mother.
The mother informed the area chief who took the suspect to Gatuga Police Station.
The minor was taken to Tharaka District Hospital where she received treatment for minor injuries that she had sustained in her private parts.
The suspect was later charged at Marimanti Law Courts and was released on a cash bail of Sh 30,000 or a bond of Sh 50,000.
Mushkarano!!
November 2, 2012 at 8:23 am
Ulichipuba iwe Chik*[email protected] uko kwine ku Kenya Id!ot.
kakolwe
November 2, 2012 at 5:48 am
The aerticle, African as it stands, simply describes one group of African Men: The Insecure Man. Can someone pliz research on the enlightened African Man? In the convers, would an African woman love or respect a drunken, talkative, unproductive, weak. Dipstick of a man? He also will remain single for many years.
Rita Mweene
November 3, 2012 at 4:32 am
Agreed!
Wanu Ngwee
November 2, 2012 at 6:50 am
That’s why some lady in SA has a political party called KISS ( Keep It Simple and Straight).
The writer also forgot to mention things like: Body piercing, taking too many night-outs and being too mobile and noticeable in crowds(attention seeking) a these things cause real men a lot of nausea !!!
bionic woman
November 2, 2012 at 7:07 am
The author and blogger # 2/3 must go back to the drawing board and get their figures right. Ladies remain single for life when their hubbies die of AIDS because they are shy to take ARVs. Meantime, the widows take them.
Bzozo
November 2, 2012 at 7:53 am
for the first time Tumfweko talking sense
NASILELE MUTALE YAAULU
November 2, 2012 at 7:59 am
THIS MATTER IS SIMPLE. THE BEGGING OF WISDOM IN THIS WORLD IS TO HAVE THE FEAR OF GOD. MOST OF US MEN & WOMEN HAVE THIS MISSING IN OUR LIVES. WE EVEN COMPARE HUMAN BEINGS OUTER LOOKS WRONGLY, CREATED IN GOD’S IMAGE, IMPLYING THAT AND TELLING GOD THAT HE MADE A MISTAKE, TO CREATE ONE IN COMPARISON WITH ANOTHER. REMEMBER IN CREATING YOU, GOD NEVER MADE ANY MISTAKE!!!!!!I THINK THE MISTAKE SHOULD FALL ON PARENTS AND GUARDIANS WHO ARE NOT BRINGING UP CHILDREN PROPERLY. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS FOR PARENTS TO SIT AND TALK TO THEIR CHILDREN AND THIS IS NOT HAPPENING. SHAME ON THE PARENTS AND GUARDIANS!!!!THANKS TO ZESCO POWER CUTS WHICH HAS FORCED SOME PARENTS TO HAVE TIME TO TALK TO THEIR CHILDREN. FINAL ADVISE, LETS TURN TO GOD AND MIRACLES ALWAYS HAPPEN WHICH BECOME TESTIMONIES LATER, AND GOD LOVES THESE TO HAPPEN.
njay
November 2, 2012 at 8:21 am
Well you need to add desperation to that list too many Zambian women are desperate to get married that it actually becomes a serious turn off. And they also go to extremes to show love, love isn’t stalking your man ladies or getting into it every time his not around you. Rule of thumb men are like dogs they always know where home is.
Uskomatonta
November 2, 2012 at 11:56 am
Its you who is like a dog.
FUTURE PRESIDENT-ZAMBIA
November 2, 2012 at 8:47 am
THATS RIGHT I CANT MARRY A CRUELNESS LADY.
JZ
November 2, 2012 at 9:13 am
Some times its the men themselves who makes us stay single for life. I was raped at age 17 and everybody put the blame on me for moving at night the day of the odeal. From that time I fear men so much. Even when I was in college I never set foot at the guys hostels (popularly know as ku monk). However, am living a happy single life at 43.
MONKU
November 2, 2012 at 11:16 am
too bad wat happened to you but where av u been looking? how is yo dressing? how u dress tells volumes bout u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
J2
November 2, 2012 at 12:01 pm
where can i find you. am in my 30s and i promise you will not regret. am single and working.
Rita Mweene
November 3, 2012 at 4:51 am
I’m sorry that that happened to you JZ, you didn’t deserve to be violated by that perverted monster rapist or blamed for his acts of evil man. There are some wonderful men in the world but the bad ones are the ones that seem to be in the majority I’m sorry you never got to meet any of them. I’m glad you have found peace and self worth in yourself even without getting married. My father was a violent man, and a drunk who always attacked mom, I lived in a community where men could do really horrible things to women and girls and people turned a blind eye I grew up to detest men, I moved to the states and found that not all men are as horrible as the ones I knew but at the same time it made me hate African and just black men in general because the first type of men to show kindness and respect without punishing a woman for being wo she wants to be instead of who they think she should be-less of a human being were all non black males. I have a white american fiance and surprisingly it is him who taught me that not all black men are bad and not all African men hurt women, and while it took years for me to see that what he was saying is true I can safely say there are indeed some genuinely good men out there but like you rightly said sometimes women are single because of how men treat them.
Julia Chikamoneka
November 2, 2012 at 9:20 am
The other reason is exagerated GODLINESS!! There has to be boundaries between real/natural life and spirituality. My cousin’s wedding was nearly put to hold as another lady came through and claimed that he had proposed to her earlier. My cousin admitted the fact, but he insisted that he could not wait any longer as he was tired of her. On two occassions of proposing to her, the lady responded “Give 6 months, am waiting to hear from God”
Uskomatonta
November 2, 2012 at 12:08 pm
I agree with you. I met some who would tell me that they wouldnt date me coz Jesus was their boy friend. A few months before my wedding, one of them came to ask me not to go ahead with the wedding, in the meantime she wanted me to consider her instead. shame!
Chinsali Mafia
November 2, 2012 at 9:21 am
WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS TO LEARN SOMETHING FROM THIS
ARTICLE.
IF YOU HAVE NOT LEARNT ANYTHING YOU HAVE LOST AN
OPPORTUNITY.
THE DATA IS FREE.
ANALYSE IT AGAINST YOURSELF LADIES.
olga
November 2, 2012 at 9:26 am
Though borrowed, exellent$ largely educative article.
Nicola
November 2, 2012 at 9:43 am
boring.
Kaluku Emmanuel
November 2, 2012 at 9:43 am
i think now i will be reading tunfweko coz now they are talking sense
kunda
November 2, 2012 at 9:57 am
Lots of sense in this. However, believe it or not there are more women out there doing the right things and men overtaken by their egos messing them up. It works both ways because some men cant handle the Good lady inferered from this article. Its boarders on levels of wisdom in both women and men!
Wanu Ngwee
November 2, 2012 at 10:03 am
OK, HERE IT IS…
zemuntu
November 2, 2012 at 10:04 am
Ba tumfweko wats happening to my postings
kakolwe
November 2, 2012 at 10:23 am
@kunda, You can never be more right. My point exactly, it goes both ways. In all relationships, it takes 2 to tango, lets all learn each others’ shortcomings & work on them. Ino wakatala, ukala buyo. No harm in singleness!
Anderson Chibanga
November 2, 2012 at 5:08 pm
my dear you are right because it takes two people to disagree on certain issues,your friend can not always be wrong while you are right. we all contribute pliz
chibwi no plan
November 2, 2012 at 10:27 am
Gender equality equality is separating men and women because naturally they are not the same. check how wife battering has became rampat because of all these equal rights. why not live like people of the old were husbands were husbans and wifes were wifes, not today were a has husband is made both and a wife is also made to be husband and at the same time wife. Read the bible or whatever holy book you use in your religion you will find the guidance on how to treat each other. do not allow prophecy to be fulfulled on you.
Anderson Chibanga
November 2, 2012 at 5:17 pm
I conquer with you my brother,marriages for old people never used to break because men were regarded as men while women as women but now its not the case,gender has brought about all these things,i can site a good example nowadays some women bring useless things on the air and and yet do the opposite when they go home while foolish ones get the things taught on the air by clever ones
OK HERE IT ISNT
November 2, 2012 at 10:29 am
OK, here it is
Is It Here? OK.
Here it is. Ok
OK is here, it
keo
November 2, 2012 at 10:33 am
Nice article,ladies must bite samething.This is very vital
Jennifer
November 2, 2012 at 10:59 am
Men of nowadays are just so insecure. If you want that women who doesn’t have those qualities listed up in the article, why not find her. Just be men enough and take up your responsibility. You want to complain about social networks but look at the way this same article is being communicated. Is it via a handwritten letter or its internet? So how do you want a woman to be? One who applies vaseline on her face, wears robes, with no phone, no friends, doesn’t watch tv etc… Decency has nothing to do with all those things!
MONKU
November 2, 2012 at 11:19 am
ba Jennifer!!!!! this is not a social network Nagu Bukopo…lol
Mushkarano!!
November 2, 2012 at 11:38 am
That’s why u will NEVER get married..VIRGIN NKOTE iwe…
MONKU
November 2, 2012 at 11:20 am
This article is spot on. if i were a lady i word think twice coz this article is factual big tym…..
Amuchi
November 2, 2012 at 11:25 am
Its reasonable enough to look at this article with the seriousness it deserves,We love rights yes but when they become abused men will take an easy way(stay single)We need to marry and let us endeavor to have good morales which can be tranfered to our next generation.let it start with you and I.
pamp yobe
November 2, 2012 at 11:49 am
number 13 is the best one,it reviews just alot.this article is MWA!!! TALK LADIES
pamp yobe
November 2, 2012 at 11:55 am
@ JULIA CHIKAMONEKA ….i love yo post dear
kinky
November 2, 2012 at 12:01 pm
Men Go to the village you will find the girls they just mensioned on this article. as for me, am making money spending it like i want to and enjoying my vibrator. “ONE WOMAN ARMY”
this is true
November 2, 2012 at 12:08 pm
Ngataumfwa pa tunono.lobe nama chiky.ukosepo nomungulu.this is like a bible of mariage.A++ Tumfweko.epurogram!!!
Timbwi
November 2, 2012 at 12:29 pm
I think us men are to blame. Some of us pay ladies for sex. Instead, i suggest we pay them as a reward for being faithful and helpfull to us even without sex. If we engage in sex, then no payment. Let us see how those sex workers will raise money. Believe me, we will have only decent ladies even in night clubs.
Mushkarano!!
November 2, 2012 at 12:36 pm
Prostitution started in the old/biblical days..and it will NEVER END until the messai comes back my friend!!
Kleptocrats
November 3, 2012 at 3:41 am
prostitution started with your mother iwe chikamba
Janet c
November 2, 2012 at 1:11 pm
If men want women to play our ‘traditional role’ then men have to play their traditional role too.
This means, I am quitting my job to be a house wife, look after the children, cook and clean for mu husband and be a good wife. In between him leaving for work and the kids going to school, I will go to the gym, have brunch with the ladies and go for a massage at the massage parlour. I will return home in time to serve him lunch.
This means that my husband now has to meet ALL of my needs (financially, emotionally, etc) – he needs to provide EVERYTHING for me and the family to the standard I am accustomed to. In fact, we should go back to what ba shi mine used to do – that is, at the month end the wives collect the salary and decide how it should be spent.
Does that work for you guys?
Timbwi
November 2, 2012 at 1:35 pm
Jaaneti! as ukwa would say. Tekufwita, ladies should just go back to the drawing board. A lady can work but should know her place just as a man should. For sure we are all to blame.
mo taim
November 2, 2012 at 2:20 pm
Probably the best article i have ever read on tumfweko.Keeep up with the good work bane.
Honest woman
November 2, 2012 at 4:05 pm
But wasa matter with a woman being single for life? It is not a crime? You can adopt children and be happy? After all there are men also who are single because they are not attractive enough. They may have a job, a house but habits and mannerisms, what woman in her real……….would want to associate themselves with them!!
Anderson Chibanga
November 2, 2012 at 5:19 pm
Its all about behaviour because others just cope things from bad elements
I chop my own money!
November 2, 2012 at 5:28 pm
I should be a liability because I like expensive clothes which I buy from my salary from the job which I got because I’m educated and work hard…..? Nigga please!
mulondwe muzungu
November 2, 2012 at 5:37 pm
I hope our Zambian women can get a point or two. The women I dislike the most are gold diggers who think that dating them is like passport to your wallet and bank account. Men nowadays are looking for life partners. Highly motivated, smart and independent women. That is the sort of woman I am looking for!
muswibo
November 2, 2012 at 8:39 pm
mulondwe gud ideas lets try t & c f u yoself r nt a gold digger,wat abt dat?
ashmail
November 2, 2012 at 9:21 pm
tumfweko!!!!!
Sexy painted woman
November 2, 2012 at 10:13 pm
Nonsense! I am educated, paint myself,wear sexy clothes, rarely cook, earn as much as my husband, use a blackberry with a facebnook accounr but we are still happy after 24years of marriage. Marriage is not about subjugation.
John Kolala
November 3, 2012 at 1:01 am
Ummmm..I am wondering who taught them in the first place! “Uwakalema taleka”
My friends we both, men and women need to go back to the drawing board or else your kids will be worse off. You cannot just blame ladies, some Zambian men are to blame big time. Who said it is only ladies who are supposed to be in the kitchen? If the ladies need to be in the kitchen may be us men should spend more time in the fields instead of being in the bars, clubs or taverns all the time.
My friends times have changed. open your eyes and do the right thing. No one would tell me our ancestors ways were the best, all I see when I look at history it is the mistreatment of our women. Our culture made women slaves. It is time we broke that mentality. God made us equal as partners not one being the boss.
Barotse diaspora
November 3, 2012 at 7:34 am
80% of Zambian women remain single due to lucky of education,porno’ poor up bringing , povert and too much playing ubuchende.the love of money to buy junk food,gadgets and g-strings and also liking diks.
Barotse diaspora
November 3, 2012 at 7:39 am
80% of Zambian women remain single due to lucky of education,porno’ poor up bringing , povert and too much playing ubuchende.the love of money to buy junk food,gadgets and g-strings and also liking diks.be like @ bionic womanok, here it is;