Dear Editor,

Greetings. Am Rona Banda originally from Malawi but working in Ndola. Are Zambian men real?. I feel they are not!! I was in a marriage with this ZRA officer from Lusaka who could give me a lot of money and demand sex everyday. Foolishly, he could release within 5 to 10 minutes b4 he hit my orgasm. This went on for 2 years and i was forced to have an alternative to relieve myself. I managed to seduce his best friend but he was even worse as he could shout “mayo!, mayo!” within 5 minutes. This annoyed and frustrated me and forced me to divorce my husband after 5 years of suffering bedroom wise and vow never to get married to any Zambian man again. I stand to be corrected; my conclusion is that all Zambian men love sex, easy money than hard work yet are embarrassingly lazy in bed. I feel for Zambian women who are every time left unsatisfied in bed by their weak husbands.

Malawian men are excellent in bed than these useless Zambians who cherish beer drinking and giving women a lot of money but no proper bedroom meals. That why Zambia has the highest cases of defilement in Africa. It has a useless generation of men who cherish sex, but are humiliatingly weak when it comes to satisfying a well balanced woman like me. Am not a prostitute and i don’t intend to be one but this spirit of failing to satisfy your wife or girl friend shouldn’t be allowed to cross over to 2018. I am sure the problem i was facing in marriage is being experienced by most Zambian women only that they cant speak out due to culture. A woman can have money cars, food and everything one requires in marriage but without proper sex, that marriage is doomed to collapse.

Until you(Zambian Men) improve in bed, you will continue buying food and sponsoring other people’s children to school as your wives will continue having sex outside marriage and bare children that are not biologically yours. I have never seen a woman whose husband is excellent in bed committing adultery.

I say this without remorse or regret.

Ronah