In my entire life I have never thought that I will one day date a married man. I had these principles of always respecting marriage. I used to rebuke my friends who dated married men not knowing I will find myself in Ku the same thing. Life has its own way you can make a plan and it turns out to be something else. Coming from a Christian background i had no intention of dating a married man. It all started after 4 years ago. I had being single for 2 years and all i wanted was focus on getting a Job and starting my independent life. My friend invited me to a lunch date to celebrate her getting a job.

I was so happy for her even though i didnt have a job myseld. After our lunch date she said i escort her to her new workplace so as i can see for myself how beautiful it was. We reached her work place and the first thing that caught my attention was not the work environment but the Handsome Man i just saw standing by the reception. God knows i lost my sense for a second when i saw him.

This guy was looking dapper imwe. His dressing was A+, his facial expression when talking just melted me, his dimples were just perfect and his skin colour was the icing on top of the cake. I was caught in the moment as i was day dreaming i told myself i had found a MAN!!!!!!!! My day dreaming stopped when i saw him pick up a phone call and his marriage ring on his finger shined in my face to bring me back to reality. I was powerless after seen his ring and everything was shuttered.

My friend introduced me to her workmates including the same man lets call him “Mike” . We greeted each other and off we went to my friends office. I asked my friend about Mike and she said that was their Marketing Manager she asked if i liked him and i laughed and said Hell No!!! I didnt want to sell myself out knowing his a married man.

After a few minutes i had to leave my friend and let her work. As i was going to the station a nice BMW car tinted stopped and guess who it was? Mike!!! He asked me if i was heading to town and i said yes. Honestly i wanted to say no but i dont where the yes came from. The devil was working harder in my life he wanted me to mess up.

Anyway i got in his nice car with some nice music. As we were in the car he asked me my name and how long have know Esther (my friend) , he asked me if i was working and i said no and he said don’t worry i will help you find a job. In my heart i was like Devil you will not do this to me. He asked for my number and i gave him knowing i will block him afterwards. He reached me in town and i blocked his number before we could communicate any further. I had to avoid all the temptations and just live a normal life. This man was everything i had wanted in a man but he was married so i never wanted to befriend him.

One month later i was attending my friends cousins wedding and i bumped into Mike. He came to me asking me why i blocked him and i honestly told him i dont entertain married men he laughed and said marriage is just word its not something i should be scared of. We laughed about his reply well because i was tipsy as well. I asked him where his wife was and he said can we talk about this on our date? How about we go on a date and we know each other better? I agreed to his suggestion because i wanted to know more about him even if he was married i guess its because i liked him the first day i saw him.

He offered to take me home after the Wedding and i refused in fear of making a mistake pantu ndi muntu fye.

Next day we went on our date at a hidden place outside town for fear of being seen you know married men are tactical. He told me his being married for 2 years, had a 1 year old baby girl and went on to tell him he loves me and loved me the first time he saw him i was chaffed you know how some of us are easily taken by lies. I told him i was single and i wouldn’t want to date a married man. He said he will take care of me and my needs and i shouldn’t worry about his marital status its just a status.

We talked about a lot of things and i realized i liked this man despite his marital status. He drove me home and while packed outside he kissed me and that has to be the most passionate kiss i had in a long time. You know that saying where they say “Wrong things feel so right” that’s exactly how i felt after that kiss. He told me goodnight and told me he will see me the next day. When i was in bed i kept on thinking about the kiss i wanted to call him but that’s the thing with side chick you don’t make the call you wait to be called.

I couldn’t even text him because i knew the message would find itself in a wrong person. I kept on thinking I’m i going to withstand this? I love showing off my emotions so this side chick thing would be difficult for me. Will i handle all this pressure? I took the risk and sent him a “I miss you already text” few minutes later he called me and i said “Hi babe” only to hear a woman’s voice “We hule iwe