The wife was like what, because of meat? And that was how problem started from their honeymoon.
The problem wasn’t because she took the meat from the plate, no. The problem was because she took the meat when they’ve not finished eating.
This story brings me to my subject matter; upbringing. Whether you believe it or not, your upbringing can affect your relationship either positively or negatively.
Just like the couple above, there are homes you don’t dare touch your meat, even bones self, until you are done with your food and there are homes even before they touch food, they’ve already sampled one or two meats depending on their buoyancy.
We all are raised uniquely and differently and it’s very important you discuss your upbringing with whomsoever you are in a relationship with.
There are guys who their father never for once mentioned “I love you” to them nor receive love from their fathers. Today, they’re finding it hard to give love.
The same thing with some ladies. Their father never told them how much they loved them. Today, they’re vulnerable. Just one single “I love you” from a guy, they will fall.
Dear parents, learn to tell your children how much you love them. Done assume they know. Verbalize it.
Most of the views we hold about men and women today came from our upbringing, what our parents taught us, how our parents treated each other.
Just this afternoon, I read a post from a guy who his father taught that, he should never see the wife he’s going to marry as part of the family, that she’s a stranger, not his relative nor blood.
You can imagine the kind of things that this woman will pass through in the hand of this guy because of what his had taught him.
A guy that watches his father beat his mum for every single mistake, unless he knows better, he will beat his wife too. The same goes to a lady that watches her mother insults and disrespects her husband.
In conclusion, discuss your upbringing with your prospective partner. What did his parents taught him about women. Women are commodity and object of sexual satisfaction? How was he raised? What are the things his mother taught her about men? Men are scum? Men are the same? Men are cheats? What are their relationship with their parents like? Which of them do they flow well with and why? Discuss your upbringing.
Thank you
#RelationshipAdvice
© Okolie Samuel
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(1) DON’T PANIC in the event of a blowout, calm yourself down fast because your car will start misbehaving and you need to take charge.
(2) Hold FIRMLY to your steering wheel with both hand, NO VIGOROUS TURNING, as you concentrate on the road and your mirrors, in seconds study the movement pattern of the car. Your car will naturally swerve to the direction of the burst tyre.
(3) Take off your foot from the accelerator, DON’T EVER ATTEMPT TO PRESS THE BRAKES, IF YOU DO, YOU HAVE A 95% CHANCE OF A SOMERSAULT. The car will decelerate gradually while you concentrate on the road to avoid collision with any other road user.
(4) Disengage the gears of the car by shifting to neutral (N) as you still maintain a firm grip on the sheering wheel and put your eyes on the road.
(5) After a while depending on your initial speed, your car come to a speed less than 60km/h when it is now safe to GRADUALLY apply the brakes and navigate to the side walk
(6) Ultimately, it is now safe to put the car to a complete stop and turn off the engine. You have just saved yourself and passengers from untimely death.
NOTE:
Of course, everyone in the car will be in a panic mode BUT this is NOT THE TIME TO LISTEN TO THEM, it is TIME TO CONCENTRATE.
Please, don’t just read, share on your page and copy to other platforms, you may just be about to save a life.
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]]>He was giving evidence against Steven Ntenge, 25, whom he sued for compensation for adultery. Facts before the court were that Ngwende is a tenant at Ntenge’s father house. “I noticed that Ntenge’s door opened a few minutes after my wife went to the toilet.
I wondered why my wife took long at the toilet. I followed out of curiosity only to find her having sex with Ntenge,” he said. A visibly disappointed Ngwende clad in a blue T-shirt and black trousers’ told the court that Ntenge’s family was shocked to learn of the unfortunate incident and even scolded him (Ntenge). He said, “my wife confess that she slept with Ntenge because we don’t have a child in our marriage”. But Ntenge who was clad in a black and white jumper and blue jeans refuted the allegations and said that he accidentally opened the door to the pit latrine and turned back when he discovered that Ngwende’s wife was in there.
“I did not sleep with Mapisila. Ngwende found me outside the toilet and started shouting that I slept with his wife. I did not know that his wife was in the toilet until opened the door,” he said. Mapisila told the court that she admitted sleeping with Ntenge so that her husband should forgive her. She said she was forced to admit to quell the situation and make peace between her husband and Ntenge. Magistrate Ruth Masanga sitting magistrate Nancy Ngoma adjourned the case to November 13 for judgement.
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]]>Leader of the banned National Democratic Congress (NDC) posted a photo of himself and his wife, Carol looking all in love.
“Happy birthday to my darling wife Banakulu Eli. May your day be filled with joy and laughter, I pray God continues to keep you safe and grants you all your hearts desires,” Kambwili wrote.
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]]>Geoffrey Mpundu, who was dating Eunice Chibesa in 2017, told the local court that he discovered she was not pregnant after taking he to a clinic for a test.
Mpundu began living with Chibesa after the girl was sent to him by her parents because she was pregnant by the defendant..
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]]>As if that was not enough, he found a pornographic video on his wife, Barbara Chitalu’s phone that was sent to her by a man in Malawi.
Nyendwa, 37, told the Chawama local court that Chitalu, 29, engaged in multiple boyfriends when she started doing cross-border trade
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]]>First and foremost I wish to remind you brethren that the Seventh- day Adventist church has prided itself over the years for being among the most organized institutions on the face of the earth.
With the guidance of scriptures, Spirit of Prophecy and official organizational documents such as the church manual, policy and various administrative instruments, the church remains compact and resolute in its structure and mission.
Coming to the issue…
Some have inquired if the church was right to adorn the first lady in the sanctimonious Dorcas uniform, while others have blatantly accused the church leadership of compromising church policy and succumbing to the lure of material or political favours.
Before we talk about evangelism and the need to embrace people of all classes, the simple question to ask is, what do our books say about such matters?
Dorcas as a society under the garb of Adventist Community services operates under what is known as Dorcas Guidelines. This is the document that spells out rules, procedures and guidelines on all penitent issues pertaining this beautiful group of women.
Contrary to popular opinion, Dorcas Guidelines allow the wearing of Dorcas uniform by individuals who are not bonafide members of Dorcas and not members of the Adventist church. “Non Seventh day Adventists who take part in the group activities may wear the service uniform while working with the group” Guidelines state.
The Guidlines also emphasize that when such happens the person must respect our standards regarding dress, jewelry and makeup. A closer look at the viral photo goes to show that this aspect was aptly complied with by the first lady, Mrs Esther Lungu.
What about the news about Dr. Akombwa?
What about it? You ask. The accusation levelled against the church about the Dorcas uniform also bullied the church leader into it. Some news outlets have claimed that Pastor Akombwa received a sum from State House in order to dress the Mrs Esther Lungu in Dorcas uniform.
Sincerity here begs for further probing. How did Dr. Akombwa dress the first lady with the uniform? Did he or his executive at Southern Zambia Union organize that event?
Contrary, the photo was captured during SDA Woodlands Central Church Exhibition at Nakatindi Hall grounds at Lusaka Civic Centre on Sunday, November 3rd,2019 were as Dr. Akombwa was also a guest by virtue of his position as leader of the church and the guest of honor.
Those of you who have been around will recall that “this was not the first time the First Lady was putting on Dorcas uniform. She did put it on in Kabwe, probably in 2017 when she was invited as Guest of Honor to officially open the meeting.
Since Kabwe is not part of Southern Zambia Inion Conference, he was not in attendance. But no one ever reacted to her wearing the uniform. So, why does it become an issue when she does the same in the SZBU, especially in view of the fact that our Manuals provide for non-Adventists to wear them?
Maybe we must admit that we are in the midst of a political crossfire. Whatever our church leaders do or don’t do, there will be someone out there who will find the position against them. Probably, we must be abit patient, gentle and prayerful towards our church leaders.
Nonetheless, mission to all classes of people, those in the highways and byways, including those in government, must be done. This is because they part of our mission field as a church.
“We talk and write much of the neglected poor: should not some attention be given also to the neglected rich? Many look upon this class as hopeless, and they do little to open the eyes of those who have lost eternity out of their reckoning.
Thousands of wealthy men have gone to their graves unwarned, because they have been judged by appearance, and passed by as hopeless subjects. But, indifferent as they may appear, but most of this class are soul burdened” Evangelism page 555.
SCRIPTED BY:
NATHAN MUYAMBANGO
SOUTH ZAMBIA CONFERENCE
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Mrs. Mwamba Kambikambi Chilangwa has expressed shock at the machinations to have her arrested on claims of property grabbing and forgery.
Reacting to media reports alleging that she is facing six counts of fraud, Mrs. Chilangwa stated that the truth will come out as Kapapa was never married to her sister.
She says Kapapa has chosen a path to maliciously scandalize and blackmail her over the estate of her late sister.
She says Kapapa was never married to her sister and he is not known to the family.
She says although the two co-habited with her sister, her sister had ended the relationship long before she died.
“Why did she he not visit her during her long illness in Mansa or UTH before she died?, “What did he provide.? She asked.
“Yes they had one child together, but does that amount to marriage?”
She has warned officers of the law not to be used in Kapapa’s appetite to defraud the estate of the her late sister.
“Is it not the same police who assisted my young sister to collect her personal belongings from Kapapa’s house? Is it not Police Commissioner Lombe Kamukoshi who helped us and even sent officers during the funeral to ensure that Kapapa and his hordes of thugs were kept at bay, where is the analogue of events in all this?” She asked.
She says there are some men that target women for financial gains like her late sister, and take advantage of them.
She says her late sister probably fell for similar schemes but the family was happy that at the time of her death, Kapapa was exposed and was not with her.
She says if Kapapa claims he was married to her the family would be interested to see what documents he had and how much he paid and where this was paid to as this would be subject to criminal and fraud investigations.
“Why did he and his family not show up for Isambo lyamfwa after the death of the burial of my sister?” She asked.
“If it was a traditional marriage, who was the shibukombe, we want his name and how did they settle the bride price and to who?”
She says the family has since engaged a lawyer to ensure that the truth comes out and her name is cleared.
She also dismissed allegations that she was failing to look after the children of her late sister.
She says as a family they look after many people and spend a lot of money on school fees and funerals.
She says it was not possible that the family could therefore fail to look after her own sister’s children.
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