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MEN You Should NEVER DATE / MARRY !
If you spot any of these men trying to enter your life, think twice before trying to build a relationship with them. And do not convince yourself that you will change them. It is much easier to move on to a really good man than to try to make things work with one of their kind.
Mama’s boy
So attached to his mother. He behaves like a child; always telling you how his mother used to prepare special food and juice for him every Sunday, as if you never had a mother.
If you are supposed to go for a date and his mother calls him home to cut her fence, he will first go and cut his mother’s fence. In his life, it is mother first then you second. So, unless you are ready to compete for his attention with his mum, you are better off kicking him out.
The flirt
Do you really want to be angry and spend sleepless nights? When he sees a hot girl, for that matter, any decent girl, out come the pick-up and flattery lines. He always wants to be seen as a gentleman and does things to get the girls’ attention.
If you try to stop him, he will think you are being jealous and want to control his life. He is not even embarrassed to flirt with your closest friends and sisters. He will have the audacity to say there is no harm in flirting. But, we all know how many flings and affairs start out with flirting.
Such a man is not worth your time. With a man like this one, you will always look over your shoulder, wondering who is next in line for his attention.
Should you play him at his own game, and flirt with guys around, you will not believe the anger that will emerge in him.
The party animal
It is okay to go out and have fun every now and then, but this kind of man wants to make everyday a party and he parties hard. When a man has a beautiful woman who wants nothing more than to spend quality time with him, why in the world would he want to be out there all the time?
Is it really worth it to continue dating him? If he was really intent on committing to you, then he really has no reason to spend all of his time out.
Negative attitude
Everything he says comes out negative. He is always criticising you. When you put on short dresses, he says you cannot dress like that in public.
If you wear the long ones, he avoids you. He will never appreciate who you are, yet he is quick to compliment the other girls in the neighbourhood. What are you still doing with him?
The selfish egotist
It is his world and you just happen to live in it. Which means you hang with his friends, visit his family.
Every aspect of your relationship will be dictated by his quest to fulfill his own needs. This type is also bossy and will not help with any chores. He will lounge on the couch, flipping through TV channels or checking out his Facebook page if he has a smart phone. When he comes home with visitors without letting you know in advance, he expects you to take it all in stride and host them. Worse still, be prepared to meet the bills half-way with this one.
If that is what you are prepared for, by all means stay, if not, find a man who can balance being all-man and yet have no time to make you feel like you are his world.
The player
Are there really any kind words for this one? If you find out that the man you are interested in has a string of girls, do not wait for the heartbreak.
He is not about to change. Even if he finally agrees to marry you, expect that he will cheat on you.
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First Lady
January 3, 2012 at 11:17 am
Hmm! Ok, advice 4 our men too or does ths go 4 both sexes?
Babygal
January 3, 2012 at 11:26 am
For real old habits die hard, have learnt a leason for life., i dont trust humans da can disappoint you @ any time. Nowounder dis year have given my life to God alone.
munalian
January 3, 2012 at 11:32 am
Women to avoid by all means:
1)DADDY’S GIRL:she will always compare you to daddy…reminding you daddy got her everything she wanted -without even asking!
Instead of appreciating you for your personality,she will complain that no man is as virtuous as daddy!
2)SPOILT LITTLE PRINCESSES:Daddy sent her to the most exclusive private school and bought her a new dress for each occasion even though she had a full wardrobe!! If you can’t spoil her then you’re in for a shock
3)CHAMPAGNE LIFESTYLE:she aspires to sip champagne whenever she is thirsty but has no money to top up her phone! These girls have “Versace” or “Dior” handbags but spelt “Versase” or “Duor” because they are “made in China” instead of Italy and France respectively!! THESE WOMEN KNOW THE PRICE OF EVERYTHING BUT THE VALUE OF NOTHING!!
4)SNOBS: they spend a couple of months or perhaps years in RSA/UK/USA and once back in zed continue to force the foreign accent even when it’s long gone -always reminding others that “just from abroad”!! Locals wine and dine exclusively at manda hill,claiming their stomachs are allergic to chibuku and nsima; lord knows what they had before the malls were built,perhaps they were born post 2000!!
Ps:I fulfil all the guys’ criteria except for mommy’s boy..
uko
January 3, 2012 at 11:34 am
Mama’s boys, flirts and players make girls smile. If your man is never attracted to the opposite sex, chances are he’s not attracted to girls, including you. Man got to look at girls to appreciate nature. Mama’s boys will take care of a girl like they would their mom. Flirts make the world go round. Come on, non-flirts are bothing to girls
uko
January 3, 2012 at 11:38 am
meant ‘boring’
windman
January 3, 2012 at 12:00 pm
i think you just wasted your time describing all men. #jusaying.
Wawa
January 3, 2012 at 12:29 pm
Ba Tumfweko naimwe…DUH!!! Been hearing the same crap since high-school…new content kaili…
Mrs nzunix
January 3, 2012 at 12:33 pm
Koma iyi ni chenjezo! Sam r xactly lyk dis, shame! Navileka vabamuna they r hat breakers!
kanyenga mutombeni
January 3, 2012 at 12:47 pm
ok…nice article tumfweko
RETSEL
January 3, 2012 at 12:51 pm
its 4 both men & wmen.
Mo taim
January 3, 2012 at 12:54 pm
Munalian….lol that`s a nice one man.
Zebige
January 3, 2012 at 12:58 pm
I am a flirt,player and a party freak.Well atleast according to what my friends say.I can`t help it that girls throw themselves at me.Bet the problem is beyond me.
Dai Whang
January 3, 2012 at 1:56 pm
Tumfweko this is true, these mama’s boys even let their mothers choose a wife for them.
@Munalian that’s also true about some of these our women, they know the price of everything but know the value of nothing including the value of having a man in a woman’s life.
Those of you who praise yourselves about being a chick-magnet, just wait time will come when your today’s behavior will catch-up with you.
Dahlia
January 3, 2012 at 2:08 pm
@Munalian, I agree there are such girls, but you too are not worth any ones time cos you have no money but try to act like you do. If you do have some money, you beg from your parents and don’t work for it like a real man would. So piss off. Am neither of the girls in your list. I work hard and earn a great salary to buy me everything I want (Am a lawyer). I want a man who can handle that. So far haven’t seen any in Zed. I would date the momma boy though. His mother has obviously taught him how to treat a woman.
peanut
January 3, 2012 at 2:11 pm
Munalian Lol. But Tumfweko forgot one.
JOHN SOLYE UBWALI
No girls handbag is safe from this type of man. He thinks your role is to earn it and his to spend it. He sits on his broke behind all day long, doens’t stretch a finger to help you yet he claims to be a businessman. He also claims he can not work for anybody and he’s his own man, clearly delusional . He’s good for nothing and will take you down too if you give him a chance.
what
January 3, 2012 at 3:00 pm
@baby gal im with you with on one!Awe nanaka ifima disappointment all the time.Im almost giving up on love.I just pray i score a God feaing person to spend my life with.
SEGULA GIGO!!!!
January 3, 2012 at 3:04 pm
“All i Know is I LOVE MY MUM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!PROUD PROUD PROUD MAMAS BOY EVEN THOUGH I ACT CRAZY GOT TO THANK THE LORD THAT YOU MADE ME!!!!!!
Smiling assasin
January 3, 2012 at 3:14 pm
Miss boss lady, thee lawyer! Bola panshi… Cnt fnd a gud dude in zed? pack up en step on it 2 anatha country.. Sit dwn en reflect, it myt nt b da zed niggaz wt da problem.. It myt b you!
maria
January 3, 2012 at 3:17 pm
@Chi segula gigo nensoni taukwete ati proud mamas boy,swine lyobe, will you marry your mum?Grow up,face the world and be a man….nigerian fyola……
Ndanjy
January 3, 2012 at 3:28 pm
I think any smart girl should know wat typa guy she wants.. we dont need tumfweko telling us that a flirt will act like a flirt.. and i think mommaz boyz are cute and make gud boyfrendz.. jx saying..
The Last Don
January 3, 2012 at 3:36 pm
@ munalian yes u have a point!
Rubbish mama’s boy! whats wrong obeying your mother when she is write? the same girls stick to there new born boys like forever and the fool u ati mama’s boy. besides the bible says honour your parents. 4 me mum and family cum 1st. my girl is just a pussy for safe protected sex.
yes flirting is a big no no, party animal is a no no
NB: no one should ever fool you! there is no handbook to relationships (man and woman) its all about how u click
2012
January 3, 2012 at 3:37 pm
@Peanut, thats very goooooood!!! I have a friend married to a loser like the one you described, and you can’t believe what she has to put up with, including his girlfriends where he takes her money, she pays for the children’s school fees, etc. while he just goes into town in the morning and sometimes even travels to Solwezi “on business”… Oh, I know that type and your description is spot on
SEGULA GIGO!!!!
January 3, 2012 at 3:48 pm
iwe ka Maria,i know ur type always ze side dish never ze main course ka hule iwe!!I bet no guy has ever introduced you to their mums, ati ‘Mum meet my Girlfriend”only intro ni pa ma guest house chabe “ati shinga short time na bwela na chamini cha last time futi,and at night only after 21hrs when guys want to see you!!!styupet atase!!
The Last Don
January 3, 2012 at 3:55 pm
If i may ask why do lawyers think they are very educated in zambia, when most of em just have there 1st degree. i wud rather respect a doctor than a lawyer!
Info tech is the highest paying job in the world right now. just think of it facebook, Dell, HP, etc lawyer, lawyer rubbish!
Akuti me!
January 3, 2012 at 4:25 pm
@Dahlia, whats with the attitude? Are you guilt of what Munalian has said? I dont even think you are what you said you were because if really were you would not over – emphasise it. Get a life
munalian
January 3, 2012 at 4:27 pm
Dear Dahlia
Lord knows how you can say I beg from my parents or am pretentious about money I don’t have when you know nothing about me! I am tempted to talk about my job but this isn’t the forum or time!
Excluding 20-30 male relatives,Zambia has ~3-4 million eligible bachelors/divorcees; the world has billions of them! There is something seriously dead wrong about you if your intellect and tact cant find and get you a man who fulfils your dreams!!
In any case,money comes and goes but the sweet memories of a loving relationship are cherished for eternity!
It’s better to meet a knight who builds a castle in your honour,writes you poetry and names a star after you so 1000 years from now people will know he loved you than giving your hand to a king whose other hand is holding that of a concubine!!
Anyway…if you <=30, gimme your Skype name and I shall holla at you…if things go well…I'll take you shopping to Harrods with my own money instead of the one I have borrowed from dad & mum!!
Your loving Munalian
Dahlia
January 3, 2012 at 5:14 pm
If you all read my first post carefully, you will notice
Dahlia
January 3, 2012 at 5:19 pm
I stated that Momma’s boys know how to treat a lady. So I commend them for that. Law is one of the best paying professions in Zambia (Way better than Doctors btw). I am still in my twenties so I haven’t done my masters yet!
munalian
January 3, 2012 at 5:56 pm
@ Dahlia,
If what you say about youself is true then I somehow understand your predicament with guys,professional ladies like you face a real challenge in finding suitable mates (same economic and academic attainment) because such guys are off the market while the few suitable who are available just want to play around because it is more “thrilling” than settling down! As such,you are forced to settle for someone with lower qualifications and/or income or simply exile yourselves in shopping malls hoping that a dreamguy will one day say “hello” and sweep you off your feet
I have no answer to your predicament but widening your horizon could help,perhaps try abroad!!
Anyway…what kind of law do you practice?
Takataka
January 3, 2012 at 9:09 pm
Those are natural controls put by God. There will ever be these characters in either men or women. Why brag about all this. Even the author is not perfect but will/has certainly find a match and life continues. How about those in wrong arrangements already? Bad elements from either sex have been there from biblical times. You me need spiritual powers to appreciate or understand. has anyone taken time to find out why short men prefer marrying taller women or why men of small stature prefers fat women? No simple humanly
Science or physics will adequately explain these weaknesses in either sexes.
ok
January 3, 2012 at 9:36 pm
MAMA’s boy!!!I WORK CLOSELY WITH THIS YOUNG MAN.I TELL REAL STUFF ABOUT MAMAS AND BOY.HIS MUM HAZ WITCHED THIS GUY,WHEN HE GETS PAID,MUM GETS EVERYTHING,BA GUY TABWIMA .A FRIEND STARTD DATING THIS GUY,INVITED HIM TO HER HOUSE FROM MUFULIRA TO CHINGOLA,THE O NYT NOTHING.MAMAS ARE BAD.THINK OF IT HE HAS WORKT 6YRS FOR MOPANI-EARNING MORE THAN K4M,BUT STIL BEING KEPT IN A SMALL HOUSE BY THE MOTHER…NEVER NEVER!!!
maria
January 3, 2012 at 10:08 pm
@SEGULA GIGO!!!!Ndipo walitumpa!For sure youre mamas boy just by the nonsense youve written,i can tell you have a small childish mind.Do you know what mamas boys turn out to be?Nobodys in life stiopeti iwe.Your head will be full of white hair,still living with your mum,ukamba uku susula imfwi nga youre playing and if youre lucky your mum allows you to marry,mamas boys are always under petticoat government,your wives will oways wear the pants in the house.Try me and il teach you a lesson to grow some balls.
maria
January 3, 2012 at 10:14 pm
@ok well said,chifunde chi segula gigo what grave he is digging for himself because it seems he is in dreamland.Abasungu batila ati wake up and smell the coffee!!!Mama boy fyo fyo fyo!
Wanu Ngwee
January 3, 2012 at 10:18 pm
Somehow women just don’t get it, and how ever much they date – they just never understand men. If you’re courting for marriage, or are married please do not expect they kind of adventure that men have their playgirls. If a serious guy takes you to Chez Ntemba every weekend just know you’re not his marriage material. If he takes videos of your intimate moments in nudity just know mulebuta, but suprisingly those are the sort of things that even well behaved ladies seem to miss in their more constructive relationsships – I just don’t understand it!! Let me just advise a bit; men have types of women that are just good to have fun with, and those that they can make a home and family with, so which type are you??
Kolwestan for shizo
January 3, 2012 at 11:33 pm
by the time you notice half the traits described in this article, you will be eight months pregnant with his fourth child!!! ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!!! girls love chicken and chips so much they dont pay atention to the mans weaknesses! another ha ha ha ha ha ha ha etc etc
Chamboli
January 4, 2012 at 12:13 am
I am a mom’s boy and grew up with alot of sisters and from that experience I have learned how to get to a girl’s heart. I just need to learn how to leave a girl without hurting her. Any sugestions?
Veteran
January 4, 2012 at 2:03 am
Marriage, marriage, marriage: Marriage is like birds and cages – when you are not in it you want to get in, when you are in it you want to get out.
Been married for 18 years and I can tell you marriage is over-rated!
Babygal
January 4, 2012 at 6:07 am
@the last don dont insult other professionalz if u want just boost about your professional, law is an important career and one cannot study it from the street unlike IT which is offered even @ da market. Us pipo in the law career are too proud even with our first degree, i bet all da lawyerz will agree with me that we are making billionz.
mwansa
January 4, 2012 at 6:32 am
@Dahlia u are the most foolish lawyer hav ever heard of.4 gudness sake! is this the forum & time 2 use 2 underate men? u mean as a lawyer u dnt even knw when & where u shud run yo mouth.Grow up “madam lawyer” bcoz if u refuse 2 grow up even if u attain the highest level of study in law in this world no man not even an office ordery wil marry u.U are way 2 proud 4 any normal guys’ liking.
mwansa
January 4, 2012 at 6:42 am
@Dahlia & Babygal,bliv me u dnt want 2 knw the profesions of all the bloggers bcoz u wil feel small.My humble advice 2 the 2 of u.Humble yoselves.
D
January 4, 2012 at 6:47 am
can’t bring a good man down
anti- lawyer
January 4, 2012 at 7:37 am
SO CALLED LAWYER..RUBBISH!! Try Afganstan….
twiumfwako
January 4, 2012 at 8:16 am
You lawyers and IT specialists, is this the right place for arguing. Be mature like grade 7 failures who quietly fly to Dubai and come back to drive the most expensive cars which you can’t afford. Maaalabishi!
slimz
January 4, 2012 at 8:23 am
Galz luv players,cheats and mamas boy….its their nature beliv me wen u are so gud excluded from the above u cant keep a girl.
Chi
January 4, 2012 at 8:26 am
@Munalian, ur such a calm person. I love that.
SEGULA GIGO!!!!
January 4, 2012 at 8:40 am
@Maria just cause I show love to my mums chakubaba!!trust me my Balls are grown just fine,one guy they did not mention pamwamba is the abuser,wife Batterer I think thats the right one for you!!A few ***** slaps,Kung fu kicks,na ka headbutt will put you right in line uleke no kamba kamba!!!!Silly Girl,you will even fail to go ku victim support to report because you ka ass will be to scared thinking ati I will be all alone,he will run away thats how he shows love!!we know you type all talk no action!!!
LIVI
January 4, 2012 at 9:19 am
yah u just described all da men but wat about the good ones well i doubt there are any
maria
January 4, 2012 at 9:46 am
@SEGULA GIGO!!!!Nawishiba ati youre not in my calibre,we are not on the same level of thinking.Im not gonna waste any more time on yr silly behaviour.Im sure youre just a ka grade ten or eleven student who is still immature and needs more time to see reality.We will give you time waumfwa.And of course you should love your mum i never objected to that if you read my comments well.i love my parents too.My main concern is ifya bu mamas boy uleke waumfwa and i see youre rejoicing about wife batterers,that exactly what you will turn out to be if you continue on this path of destruction.Happy 2012 and next yr i should talk to a changed segula gigo,a real man!!
MAMA'S BOY
January 4, 2012 at 10:52 am
Leave me alone.yashani.mommy found a galfriend 4 me.she gives me money 2 take her out,momy also buy gifts 4 my first born son.mommy sponsored my 27th birthday.so being momies boy is cool,i just sit and lazy about but she buys me anything i want.
ONE TIME
January 4, 2012 at 10:52 am
OK