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10 Top SIGNS She Is CHEATING On You
It’s a sad fact, but there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. So, although you might be in love with your better half, there’s always a chance that she might be cheating on you. Contrary to what your macho side might think, you may not be the center of her universe after all.
Women are typically detail-oriented; if she’s cheating on you, you’ll have to start paying attention, as she’ll likely cover her tracks better than a practiced thief. If you’re looking for a starting point for your detective work, you can rest easy; we’ve compiled a top 10 list of signs she’s cheating on you. While all the cheating signs that follow may not imply that she is in fact cheating on you, each is definitely a warning that something is amiss with your ladylove. Depending on the scenario, you may need to look further for more signs she’s cheating on you, do some relationship maintenance or simply break up.
Number 10 She detaches herself from your family
The fact that she no longer wants to attend your family’s functions or hang with your friends is one of our signs she’s cheating on you. This sign may be indicative of cheater’s remorse on her part, which means that she likely feels guilty about cheating. The less she immerses herself in your circles (which contain people who are painful reminders of her sins), the less mental anguish she’ll have to endure.
Number 9 She nags you incessantly
Gone are the days when the two of you could communicate with harmonious precision. Now, every sentiment you express sets her off and she finds any excuse to lash out at you.If such an about-face sounds familiar, she may be subconsciously trying to justify her little tryst. Nagging you helps eliminate or at least ease her nagging guilt. So if she habitually begins to point out your every flaw, you may want to get to the bottom of what’s really going on because it’s one of our signs she’s cheating on you.
Number 8 She has a mysterious friend
A telltale sign that your woman is cheating arises when a mysterious friend inches his way into the picture. Whether it’s someone she claims is a coworker or an old friend from way back, she keeps this friendship under wraps and is hesitant to share any general details about him, much less introduce you. And it doesn’t take a Ph.D. to figure out why.
Number 7 She deflects simple questions
You should be suspicious of your girlfriend when she refuses to answer the simplest and fairest of questions or answers questions only after repeating them back to you, which usually indicates a mind that’s searching for a lie. Be wary of times when, rather than reveal that she got home at midnight, she begrudgingly asks, “Why do you want to know what time I left the coffee shop?” If she gets defensive about disclosing information that she used to volunteer without hesitation, she may be hiding something or someone and it’s one of the surest sings she’s cheating on you.
Number 6 She shifts priorities away from you
If she is involved in a hot and heavy romance with someone else, you’ll definitely feel a shift in her daily priorities. Suddenly, there are no more implied Sunday dates at the movies or something always comes up on dance-lesson Thursday. There is a tendency for most philanderers to schedule meetings with their new flame as often as they can, which results in a complete disregard for previous engagements.
Number 5 She puts more effort into looking sexy
You may like her just the way she is, but that won’t stop her from trying to dazzle her new fling. Just as you tried to impress each other at the beginning of your relationship, she’ll try to impress her new flame with a sudden urge to improve her style, change her makeup and alter her physical appearance for the new man in her life. So, while her desire to look sexier is one thing, not caring about your opinion on the matter is quite another.
Number 4 She becomes autonomous
One of the biggest signs she’s cheating on you is her breaking away from your little two-person unit to become more autonomous. She has dropped “we” from her vocabulary in favor of “I.” Moreover, she does more things on her own and stops consulting you about future plans. In short, she conducts herself in ways that hint that she no longer needs you to hold her hand. Whether she’s hoping you’ll leave her or she’s simply looking for more time to lead her “double life,” it’s safe to conclude that she wants you out of the picture — she just can’t build up the nerve to leave you.
Number 3 She has no interest in sex with you
When your relationship was new, the two of your were full of passion and open to spontaneous lovemaking. Now it’s all a bit iffy, whereby you’re rarely hitting the sheets and you’re only doing so if and when she feels like it.On a slightly more ego-bashing note, she may suddenly become bored by your performance and appear to be thinking about someone else when you do make love. Cheating may be wrong, but you can’t deny that unlawful sex is usually more exhilarating. So, if you can no longer satisfy her sexually, someone else may be rubbing her the right way.
Number 2 She’s secretive about her schedule
She may claim to no longer have time for any extracurricular activities with you, yet she has one foot out the door the minute one of her girlfriends calls. Either that or she has been “going away on business” one too many times. And when she does leave, her whereabouts are sketchy at best and you are somehow always the last to know.Disclosing her itinerary to you at the last minute and overlooking your plans in the process can mean many things, one of which isn’t that she’s forgetting, but rather leaving you out.
Number 1 You become irrelevant
What could be worse than a girlfriend who nags you about absolutely everything? How about one who stops noticing that you’re even alive? Just as No. 9 on our list of signs she’s cheating on you is a possibility (she nags you incessantly), the opposite could be yet another clue of your loves cheating ways.All at once, she doesn’t care if you don’t want to go to the ballet with her; she’ll just find somebody else with whom to go. And whatever opinion you may have, be it about how she looks or how you’re feeling, is met with a tepid response. In other words, she doesn’t place the same importance on what you think and what you do as she once did, especially on things that directly affect the relationship.
cheating in check
Don’t delude yourself into thinking that your woman would never cheat and don’t rush to judgment either; if she is guilty of committing any signs on the list, perhaps it’s indicative that something is awry in the relationship . In any case, this is a great opportunity for you to address problems you may not have noticed before scanning this article.More importantly, don’t let what may just be a bad case of jealousy taint your perception of her. Reading her the wrong way or jumping to conclusions can permanently sever a relationship; get all the facts before you confront her.
Others
Top 10 Signs She May Be Cheating On You
- Change in work habits/hours
- Absence of quality time
- Protective over technological devices (phone, Blackberry, computer)
- Decrease/Increase in sex drive (and changes in ‘technique’)
- Accusations of infidelity, picking fights
- Increased attention to appearance/wardrobe
- Mood swings
- Partner becomes very critical of you/others
- Disinterest in discussing the future
- Giving an excessive amount of gifts
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dw
February 5, 2012 at 10:52 am
ba tufweko naimwe tetimwaikalafye bt am guilty although hv changed mayo.
True bantustans:
February 5, 2012 at 10:57 am
Thats a big lie batumfweko,why didnt you alert us on mr sata and the the pf gov,s lie on 90 dayz?.Tha
GUN
February 5, 2012 at 11:05 am
One of my ex girls decided to cheet on me,only to discover it was me in the room she was about to have this fling with, her sisters came to cry on my door steps when i dumped her.
mulubwa
February 5, 2012 at 11:12 am
Yes u r rite gals r now a big problm
mulubwa
February 5, 2012 at 11:15 am
Yes u r rite its too much
Meeeeeeeeeee
February 5, 2012 at 11:52 am
Yeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh!!!!! Ati men are smart, women smarter when it comes to cheating. Lol.
nice babe
February 5, 2012 at 12:06 pm
cheating is such a terrible thing to do. it leaves the other person devastated for life. Its something one never forgets in a lifetime. Im a victim of a cheating spouse and my life has never been the same,the real heat was lost first time he cheated on me or was it first time i discovered,so pipo never cheat on your partner.
the infidel
February 5, 2012 at 12:15 pm
offer no one (not even husband/wife) 100% trust and you will never be disappointed!! It is time to realise that infidelity makes the earth go around the sun!! That’s despite the advice given by sages since the dawn of civilization!!
Mrs Doug
February 5, 2012 at 12:37 pm
When a woman starts cheating then there’s surely something wrong wit the man….
Ine
February 5, 2012 at 2:14 pm
Am guilt i usd 2 cheat on my man. Bt he neva caught me until i stopd. I ll neva cheat again fyabupuba
proud kenyan
February 5, 2012 at 2:17 pm
@mrs doug,i beg 2 disagree coz i tend to believe that some people cheat 4 pleasure its so rampant here in kenya
proudkenyan
February 5, 2012 at 2:20 pm
its not good @Ine its disheartening
JK
February 5, 2012 at 2:36 pm
Never trust a woman, trust her as you would trust a Rattle Snake no more no less. James Hardly Chase wrote in one of his novels.
mulubwa
February 5, 2012 at 3:09 pm
If u want die early trust in relationships
mulubwa
February 5, 2012 at 3:11 pm
If u want die early trust a man
Shibobo
February 5, 2012 at 3:22 pm
Women are like kids who can be attracted so easily even by sentiments like “u are such a marvel.”Men learn to genuinely complement yo women.
The other thing is that men have
become advanced in the ways they catch women.The way u men catch other men’s wives and girlfriends,that is how they spin yours.
PLIZ ,WOMEN ARE HUMAN BEINGS WHO LIKE DISCOVERIES.To avoid killing her pliz leave as much as 60% room for disappointments.
Drewman
February 5, 2012 at 4:12 pm
Thats why you should never trust a cunt too much! Sleep with one eye open my dim negreos.
ChaOz33
February 5, 2012 at 4:58 pm
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmhhhh!!! nothing to say
bazamukag
February 5, 2012 at 5:03 pm
There is an increase of infidelity amongst pipo these days. women/men are even not ashamed of that. these days an increasing number of women are cheating on their husbands but men also cheat alot.
GUN
February 5, 2012 at 5:29 pm
To all cheaters,remember HIV will catch up with you if not yet with you,condoms do break.
pritti
February 5, 2012 at 7:02 pm
Pride,Complacency Lust coupled with Money are probably the reason a man will never know when a woman is cheating. Men take women for granted, please remember money is not everything. women are economically empowered now and they need not only to be loved but to be told they are loved.
Juku 1
February 5, 2012 at 7:12 pm
I have confesed 2 God and repented.this sin of cheating had troubled me a lot.so u hasbands/wives repent jesus is coming soon. Hse 4 sale cal zm on 0967/0978-291164.
Dochikusema
February 5, 2012 at 8:00 pm
Bandyela ba guy ka wina bank boy kuno ku nakonde banamundyela mukazi wake ku li teacher.its a sad storie mwandi
apbl ©2012
February 5, 2012 at 9:16 pm
the thing is that we all want to seem the big stars of life
people tend to separate fun from emotions.
love is everything in one its a bowl that holds all types of matters
its never difficult to catch a cheating woman it only takes attention and knowing each other to extents.
matter reason for being in a relationship
divided attention is not love
maybe its a way of life now too much compromising
Mrs XYZ_1980
February 5, 2012 at 11:26 pm
I certainly do not agree with your list!! It doesnt mean shes cheating..infact it means shes lost interest in you and is moving on with her life and it doesnt necessarily mean shes moving on with someone else (cheating)…only a matter of time when she tells you its over.
Digger
February 6, 2012 at 1:41 am
Actually 70% women cheat on their husbands, and only 40% men cheat on their wives. The fact is, it is not easy for an African man to know that his wife is cheating because many Africans believe money buys love and builds relationships. Some even feel as long as they can provide everything for their spouses, it is enough love, even forgetting to show love and emotional care for their women. These women even cheat with their Garden boys when provider and complacent husband is not around. As African men, we need to learn to love and understand emotions of our spouses, not just providing money, women nowadays are exposed and adventurers. They need creative men with tender hearts, not you annoy her today and expect love at night, yes she can give you fake one, but someone somewhere who cares would be receiving the full dosage.
Digger
February 6, 2012 at 1:45 am
Men remember, it is not easy in our African society to discover that your African woman is cheating on you because they are taught to even pretend to love you by these Banacimbusa. For you when she serves you food kneeling down, you think it is all rosy and love, get down deeper, you may even be financing your garden boy. know your wife and make sure you are very close to her to spot any strange move.
Digger
February 6, 2012 at 1:51 am
For those who are poligamous, it is worse, their wives cheat on them everyday. How can you serve two women, when you are not there, she is another man’s food. Listen to your wife in terms of sexually, do not be selfish, these women have read a lot of magazines then men, and they are up to date even what you are failing to do in bed. But just because you would accuse her of being a prostitute, she will enjoy those goodies with one who will appreciate her. Some women cheat on us men because we are so selfish, we just listen to ourselves only, and just command love, yes she will bend, but thats not genuine.
joakimz
February 6, 2012 at 8:43 am
A wife went to hide in a dark maid bedroom with arrangement to trap a cheating husband with a maid; a few minutes later a man entered & enjoyed sex with her immidiately the two finishes the wife rushed to switch on the lights & shouted I have caught you! when the room became brighter only to see its a garden boy apologising, sorry maddam, I thought it was mary the maid.
Chama Febie
February 6, 2012 at 9:19 am
My husband he’s cheating and he expect me to be faithful hell nooooooo!!!!!!
pussy killer
February 6, 2012 at 9:44 am
you’re ecouraging girls to cheat? on they hubs or bfriends
Hearttoheart
February 6, 2012 at 10:18 am
Having a spouse who is cheating on you is the most devastating experience one can have, it leaves you with a lot of unanswered questions especially if you truly love the your half. for all those of you who cheat on your partners it wud be better if you walk out on you wife/husband and serve her/him the pain.
women and men are the same wen it comes to sex only that others do it passionately and are not afraid to explore.
Chama Febie
February 6, 2012 at 10:25 am
@Hearttoheart well said
Felix Bwalya
February 6, 2012 at 11:22 am
I am not a cheater because I am not married and neither am I in a relationship. However, all my partners are cheaters because either they are married or are in serious relationships. And they are quick to tell me that they are married as a form of security in case I happen to bump into their husbands. Hell, yesterday I was bonking one who will be getting married this coming Saturday! Can you imagine what she is willing to scrifice in case we got caught? I would lose nothing but she would lose everything. Pretty ******. All cheating women are ******.
Sadi
February 6, 2012 at 11:26 am
cheating is 50/50 for both men and women.Actually, men are the worst culprits, hence women would do the same due to frustrations.Most married men have got more than a galfriend. Either way it is wrong but infidelity will neva stop.
Experienced it
February 6, 2012 at 1:31 pm
Cheating yaba!! My girlfriend cheated on me 2 weeks before i was due to reach her parent’s place. It hurt like hell. Felt like the ground was removed from my feet. I had put too much, my all in the relationship. I loved her too much and felt i had arrived, this was it! I asked myself alot of questions, trying to see what or where i had gone wrong. Was it the sex become stale, low income-money, love grown cold…what was it that led her to cheat? How could i not have seen it or just suspected it was happening? I was smashed to pieces,literally.
I went on a journey to proved if there was anything wrong with me. Slept with a number of girls to prove my sexual skills, feedback was excellent. Become a flirt and most women would find me attractive, I even would date girlsthat were attached. Indeed, im a handsome guy. Looked at my bank balance and other monies i had, i was doing okay. So i concluded that i would forever be trying to prove myself to myself. So i made a decision to let it all go and move on with my life. I would no longer be self destructive but will build myself and career. Whatever caused my girl to cheat will only be known by her. So f**k it, i will get myself a life and enjoy it.
For real, i met a girl and cautiously started dating. She is now my wife and has given me a beautiful baby girl. Im happy with my life and do not miss my old me. Im tempted like every man but has decided, i will not cheat on my wife.Do i trust her? I do. Can she cheat on me? I hope not!!
keyser soze
February 6, 2012 at 2:21 pm
the more i see people cheat the more i realise we are animals has nothing to do with being a man or a woman. simply the animal in you.
Munalian
February 6, 2012 at 2:48 pm
@keyser soze: well said mate!
Despite human’s achievements:
Going to the moon,
Having laws,philosophy & religion
Discovering medicines
Living in complex societies etc
We humans are NOT meant to be MONOGAMOUS,just like our cousins the primates -who are 97% genetically identical to US!!
Besides,cheating isn’t a new invention,it has happened since time immemorial;it’s just that it is reported more frequently,especially females cheating!
bob Marley the great
February 7, 2012 at 12:59 pm
Why waste time on all those items, if she is not honest thats her problem not mine. so to hell with all those who cheat on their partners.
bye!
RosEpetal
February 7, 2012 at 4:14 pm
MEN ARE THE ONES WHO CHEAT ON WOMEN.
SEKA UPONOKWE
February 8, 2012 at 8:36 am
In ourdays you cant find a better word to define a woman thats why in america women are termed as “BITCHES”..women have lost that element of being a woman for example they are busy in town putting on lowcuts hip-stars so that they can be advertising themselves by showing their ****** butt cracks..Most women are not always straight when it comes to the issue of relationships.I’m tired of being dissapointed,so women watch out cuz nkala milyafe kwati amaule…Bakamba ku filyafe zoona!
Lusakian
February 8, 2012 at 10:18 am
Thats why Indians stitch their wives cunts when they go away for some time. And we africans have that one we call Lukanko. Basop you adulterous men and women!!!
The Analyser
February 8, 2012 at 12:22 pm
You shoul only trust a woman when you are inside because then you know no one will come in. One at a time.
The second name for a woman in secrecy.
Be alart, shit happens!
Akapolongondo
February 8, 2012 at 3:24 pm
Iye after ba -Zambia ba wina, kuzankhala sex lelo….monga last week, nothing brings sex like excitement. Tizadya zabene lelo!
Mbwe!
February 8, 2012 at 3:45 pm
Nyini nim’bo chabe, a Pussy is just a hole like anyother even a rat can enter in, so just because you call a woman your wife/fience/girlfriend you think she can take her thing elsewhere? Anyone can sleep with your wife, just pray that when she does its with someone without AIDS.
bwalibwandi
February 8, 2012 at 10:13 pm
ubwali busuma
hallo
February 9, 2012 at 8:45 am
It is best not to put one’s trust in human beings coz they are prone to change.
Cheating by man or woman is usually because of indecision and failure to address challenges within existing relationships.
However for some its taken as the accepted way of life and most African cultures vouch for cheating men.
MR BAD-ARSHHH
February 9, 2012 at 9:19 am
True ..the reason why women cheat…is tht they act first and think of the consequences later…SAD thing bt Very true
rachy
February 9, 2012 at 3:44 pm
not all these are true ba tumfweko…
george
February 9, 2012 at 6:55 pm
please lets just be responsible.