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My Brother In law Aged 45 Wants To Have Sex With Me

Dear Editor,

 

Please don’t disclose my Id. There is something I want to share with your readers that has been making my life miserable. I’m seeking advice.

 

I am a girl aged 18 years and I had just been accepted at CBU( copperbelt University)to study medicine. I had 7 points at Grade 12. I am initially from Kasama.
The problem is my brother in law who is an engineer.

 

When I was processing my papers at CBU I was staying with my sister in Kitwe. Now her husband has been  on me for sometime now, he wants to have sex with me, he has on several occasions stormed into my room while I am either sleeping or dressing demanding for sex.

 

One day he stormed the bath room while I was naked and demanded for sex, he usually goes for work around 06: 00 hours, meaning I would be up by 05:00 hours to prepare food and water for him, during this period he would be all over me wanting to touch me but I would either run away from him or threaten to scream.
One day around 14: 00 hours my sister was away at the market, we were the two of us at home plus his son. He chased the son aged 8 years to go outside and he started watching a porno movie, when I was passing through the sitting room to go outside he held my hand and forced me to sit next to him to watch the porno movie but again I threatened to scream and I left.
He sent me an SMS saying “Your sister (his wife) since she is pregnant, she produces a lot of water from her vagina and I don’t enjoy sex so I want to be having sex with you and you will always be having  money in your pockets.”

 

I have these SMS with me and after I realized that it was becoming too much, I had to run away from Kitwe.
I told my mother who is a nurse in Kasama and my brothers and dad everything what her son in law has been doing, she was and she is still shocked but she advised that we must not inform my sister who was then pregnant saying her (blood pressure)BP can easily go up and anything can happen.

 

True to my mother’s words, my sisters BP went up during delivering, she almost died. She had to undergo a lot of medical requirements when giving birth.

 

People my brother in law would around 03: 00 hours call me or send me SMS to go to the other room or sitting room so that we can have sex, it was just too much.
Recently, I visited them, they are keeping my  cousin who is 17 years old, I asked her if my brother in law has been doing the same to her, she said he has been doing the same but that she warned him that the entire family knows his behavior and that we no longer respect him that is how he stopped.
I overheard him on the phone talking to a woman saying “ you must come to Kitwe, I will book you a room and I love you very much”. Here are my questions, did we make a mistake by not telling my sister about her husband’s behavior and could it be that he is seeing another woman?
My mother has maintained that we must not tell my sister about this issue. I still have the SMS’s he has been sending to me and I am not comfortable with my brother in law any more.

 

Thanks in advance.

 

 

 

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146 Responses to My Brother In law Aged 45 Wants To Have Sex With Me

  1. Pv Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:14 am

    No comment

  2. richard Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:16 am

    you tolarated the idoit,u are weak,report the f**k 4 abuse.

  3. Tom Bar Know Call Cheekalah Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:20 am

    It looks like your family needs the man(husband) more than he needs you especailly economicaly.The best way is to solve the issue together as family from the wife+husband side.One thing you must know is that he has not committed any adultery by merely attempting to ride on your pusssy so take ist easy rather embrassing yo in law to the public.Do it as family.Nyele niyo bvuta.Aternatively,just tell him that you are HIV positive may be he fear preying on yo pusssy.

  4. Tom Bar Know Call Cheekalah Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:21 am

    It looks like your family needs the man(husband) more than he needs you especailly economicaly.The best way is to solve the issue together as family from the wife+husband side.One thing you must know is that he has not committed any adultery by merely attempting to ride on your pusssy so take ist easy rather embrassing yo in law to the public.Do it as family.Nyele niyo bvuta.(Ask RB)Aternatively,just tell him that you are HIV positive may be he fear preying on yo pusssy.

  5. cbbz Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:22 am

    Somehow you are weak and weren’t firm enough, how can the fool get away with it and stil goes on to pounce on your cozin, saat that’s louzy man, get real go to police ala shet, styopeti, he’s a sex maniac

  6. lila Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:24 am

    wooo no comment

  7. Fredm Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:24 am

    He is not normal,if you are scared to tell your sister will tell her when she is sick?think wisely the BP of your sister can be controlled and AIDS will not be easy to control.

  8. mukombe Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:29 am

    Why do you like staying in other peoples homes why cant you stay with your parents in Kasama. if anything happens to your sister it is your fought, learn to stay with your parents. Trouble maker ala ukutumpa.

  9. mupopo Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:31 am

    He is inhuman

  10. Diva Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:32 am

    Tabakwata amano. Bite him on the forehead so that he should be answerable to the wife. That way he wil fear u & wil know u can do worse than that.

  11. Drugsquard Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:37 am

    A lot of men are like that, they never get satisfied. The best is to expose him, that way you will be [protecting the would be victims. I like your carriage girl, some girls of your age have succumbed to such pressure and the end result is always fatal….

  12. I.M Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:37 am

    Have a family meeting where that will be discussed. he needs to be warned otherwise he may end up doing the worst thing you will all live to regret. During the meeting, show those sms’s to the people who will be in attendance. Ensure that both families are represented.

  13. Diva Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:39 am

    @ Mukombe I see nothing wrong with visiting her own sister and more over she went ku fye isukulu as her parents are far from kitwe. Why should that old fool take advantage of the poor gal? Baleleka noku tandala!

  14. Tutombeko.com Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:41 am

    So who is going to sponser you @ CBU.If its the man then you should just apply to Kasama Skool of Nursing or else no punami no monie….

  15. Monkey Buisness Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:50 am

    Kasama Disco wayibundulila!

  16. george Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:57 am

    what will you be studying at CBU? Is that you on the photo ? If u want us to help u expose the man. limbi iyi story yabufi and men are been condemned.

  17. Pv Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 11:58 am

    No comment, aim also abmiring my wife’s young sister….

  18. William Mulenga Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    You are bringing confusion in yo sisters marriage. Why can’t you get out of that house and stay with someone instead of trying to disgrace yo brother in law. Your in law might have a weakness but that’s not the way to go sister. Your sister’s marriage is at stake becoz of you. Learn not to wash dirty linens in public. I wonder why people are rushing to the press even over issues they can discuss as a family. Consider yo sister’s marriage and do the honorable thing – get out. You are trying to portray yourself a saint and yo In law the devil

    • Whatever Reply

      October 7, 2012 at 11:43 am

      William Mulenga get over yourself! If a man has self respect he won’t chase after any other female other than his wife!

      The Zambian society disgusts me how you want to villify the woman who brings out the facts about some dirty old pig! Why should dirty men be allowed to get away with such crap!

      Little girl I applaud you for bringing this fealthy man to book! You sister must know what a pig she married so perhaps she shouldn’t bring any female relatives in her home

      And we wonder why the AIDS pandemic goes on!

      Also shame on the older relatives that want keep hush about such things! Next will be his daughter and then what will you say? Dirty linen in public???

      *fyola*

  19. lmc Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:03 pm

    Gels you like wearing shot skirts,too much make ups and see through clothes,trying to look nice more than the owner of the house, mwamona a ma resoults yabamo you end up attracting abakulu. Thy thrush!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  20. Wa jata cow Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:03 pm

    The problem is my brother in law who is an engineer.Do we need know that he is an engineer?

  21. Zibwidi Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:05 pm

    Ati more money in your pockets…..report the bastard before he wipes out your family with HIV…..wake up

  22. mukombe Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:08 pm

    Stay in a hotel if you want to tandala keep off other peoples homes even your sisters home CBU has lodging facilities.

  23. Shakes Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:15 pm

    Young lady i no dat u had sex b4 wth the same guy &it hs nw bcome fo the same and u wat 2review vis to ve public to help u.jst gv ve guy .

  24. Diva Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    If u have a grandmum tell her as she wil find a better way of tellin him because spilling the beans wil only disturb peace in their home. Yo sister wil hate u pakuba sebanya.it was also wrong for to tell yo dad yo mum was the right person to tell she would hav sent bashi bukombe to talk to him.

  25. Sobongo Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    Your mother is not helping matters, even yourself have a part to play. But overall, if you r own mother cannot give you best advice on this, then who will? Sorry to say she doesn’t sound very sensible in this matter, report to your sister and avoid their home if you can!
    You have a mother and bloggers here, us, will not really give help as a caring mother would.

  26. Diva Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:23 pm

    Umusebanya aba abaume how can he tell the young girl that the wife has a watery vagina. How does he knw that iwe wakwata iya uma? Foolish old man u we’re never taught.

  27. Chibz Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:26 pm

    Medicine pa c.b.u?

  28. martin petauke Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    Report the man to you sister,she will handle him since your family cant handle it for fear that he seems to be a bread winner to you family and he needs to be given a care giver because at rate he is moving he is a threat to you family,if you report you are helping you sister to now what type of man he is,she got married to.have the courage to talk when you sister is there she will start respecting you such men are a danger to society

  29. TimZ Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:48 pm

    I agree with william Mulenga. Da best thing 2 do is for u sister 2 avoid dat home. According 2 yo story, its like u like visitng da same place while u already know what intentions yo in law has 4 u. If u love yo sister avoid disgracing ha husband & help yo in law 2 avoid temptation by creating distance. Yo in law does not follow u at yo parents house but u always follow him at his house. Fear what threatens u.

  30. Ba cp Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    wakula luk 4 yo own house nd leave yo sistaz hub

  31. Salt Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    MULAMU NI NDIYO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get out

  32. beautiful sergeant Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 1:02 pm

    Typical of sisters in law. Once u refuse to give what she wants, then she goes bleeding all over the place looking for attention. Especially those that drink .

  33. Narrant Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    You are avery good girl, a principled girl, a girl of integrity. Keep up being this way. Avoid, at all cost, visiting the house of this evil and demented man because, one day, he is likely to injure you in more ways than one.

  34. Wanu Ngwee Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    Girl you’re up to no good too… From your behaviour it seems you are still “thinking about it…” and you’ll eventually grant him his wish. However, if you are true to your sister and are as upright as you’re trying to make us believe, please tell your brother-in-law that you are fed up with his advances on you and have therefore reported the matter to your sister who is planning on inviting his family to discuss the matter. And if you’re an honest sister you must disclose this to her too. Imagine the fireworks when she discovers it on her own!

  35. Mulenga chiti Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 1:17 pm

    I think u hav tolaretd him too much thats hw cum he az that ****** courage even to tourch u. Pliz let yo sister knw b4 its too late. Thats unaccepteble in our tradition and Zambian curture. Also check yo dressing and jst give me the respect he derseves. Am sure they are elders were u cum frm apart frm yo mum. Let them knw. All the best

  36. BryD Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 1:20 pm

    Yes please,arrange with your parents and let them call for a family meeting from both sides. That’s where the things are suposed to be discussed, and in the presence of all the attendants in that meeting show all the smses you have on phone. And please, inform your sister on this matter as early as possible, that man is being used by a demon he’ll do something very worse and you will always live to regret. Expose him to avoid that.

  37. BKB Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 1:28 pm

    Ku CBU takwaba Medicine *****

  38. kakolwe Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 2:13 pm

    Bloggers, this woman is writing out of jelousy coz the man has seen hers. Notice how she follows up on his activity with the cousin & the ‘other’ woman. That indicate interest & having something to protect. Come out of you castle & nursh you broken ego

  39. pd Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 2:47 pm

    He is a sick person

  40. tuntatunta Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    in swaili we say, semeki nimboka yaugali. mulamu obe munani kutiwalya.jst gve him so dat he sees de different btween u en yo sister

  41. MUSOLI MUTHANSHI Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 3:00 pm

    please educate me, has the government introduced medicine pa CBU? it wasnt there. coming to the story, i think a man is an animal that should have no place in this morden society. the best here is to expose the man to both his and your family. just keeping quiet or avoiding their home wont help as other people (girls) will continue to visit and one day this monster of a man will win and the end result may be worse than exposing him now. for you, after exposing him, avoiding their home!

  42. Lozi Bull Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 3:07 pm

    People,
    The problem shared is almost half solved.
    Besides,it can even even help others in one wayu,or the other.
    The best she can do is to;
    Stay away from her brother in law.
    That’s all.

  43. george Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 3:42 pm

    on the photo you look like you are pleeding for more. this time around Tumfweko I want my comments published.

  44. pemps Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 3:50 pm

    Go to unza for med mwaiche iwe!

  45. oprah Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 4:01 pm

    Am confused who died during delivery

  46. Zaigo Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 4:12 pm

    Janet c ati shani .., is it tru?

  47. NASILELE MUTALE YAAULU Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 4:14 pm

    UYO KAPOLI HAS TO HAVE HIS TESTICLES CASTRATED. MY DEAR YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE. THERE ARE SO MANY GIRLS UNDERGOING THIS TYPE OF STRESS, BUT THEY WILL NOT DISCLOSE FOR FEAR OF EMBARRASSING THE FAMILY AND OTHER REASONS.

    CONGRATULATIONS DEAR. HE WILL NEVER SUCCEED ON YOU AND KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY UNTIL MARRIAGE!

    I THINK YOUR SISTER HAS GIVEN BIRTH AND WHAT I WOULD ADVISE IS TELL HIM THAT YOU NEED A MEETING BETWEEN HIM AND YOUR SISTER. THEN TELL YOUR SISTER EXACTLY WHATS BEEN GOING ON. HE HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOUR SISTER.

    I WOULD ALSO ADVISE THAT WHEN YOUR SISTER GETS WELL, SHE SHOULD DEMAND AN HIV TEST.

    IF HE IS NEGATIVE, PLEASE YOUR SISTER SHOULD ALWAYS INSIST HE COMES HOME FIRST BEFORE GOING ANYWHERE ELSE. YOUR SISTER MUST ALWAYS PARALYZE HIM WITH SEX TO AN EXTENT WHERE HE FAINTS. THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO TEACH SUCH A BEAST A LESSON!

    HAVE FUN AND ABSTINENCE UNTIL MARRIAGE ILI CHE OR YALIBAFYE BWINO! BAKAPOLI MWAONAULA ABANA! WOMEN MOVEMENTS AND THE CHURCH SHOULD COME IN VERY STRONGLY ON THIS ONE!!!!!

  48. sunshila Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 4:24 pm

    KaKolwe you seem to know more than alot of us here do are you the engineer in the picture. I always warn you about this tuma sweet sixteens you do no want to adhere even Janet C has mentioned but kaya,Pa last even 38 year old will claim you have defiled them like that finished Diva in your local courts

  49. mosquito Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 4:27 pm

    This girl cant look for her house as you know she is not working,keeping someone is not a ticket for abuse, so be careful with your comments,now girl suppose you were raped were you goin to keep quiet and not tel your sister,and your mum is bad let her handle this matter other wise the man will continue until he pounces on the weakest in your family.table it out with your family

  50. Janet c Reply

    October 6, 2012 at 4:39 pm

    Plse tell your mother to speak to your sister – your mother must tell your sister. At first, your sister may start to resent you but in the end that is the best you can do. If you leave him to go scot free, many years down the line this man is even capable of raping his own daughter or even your own daughter when you have one. These are the kind of men that abuse young girl relatives – expose him immediately

    • Whatever Reply

      October 7, 2012 at 11:51 am

      My point exactly Janet! Such pigs will start looking at their own daughters afterwards!

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